I’m assuming his mom found out after the fact, nothing the OP said when I commentef pointed to the opposite.
Also, regardless if he told her or if she found out by herself, there is no question that the cheater is the asshole in this situation. Admitting to an affaire doesnt suddenly make it okay or take away the pain.
daniskarma@lemmy.dbzer0.com 3 days ago
What I mean is that the level of pain would be similar if he would have not cheated and would just have left her, and after leaving her started another relationship.
Grimy@lemmy.world 3 days ago
Sorry I misunderstood. In that case, cheating definitely hurts more I would say. It’s more of a betrayal then a break up imo. Its a bit like the difference between having 10$ stolen and losing 10$, or the difference between scratching your car on a branch and having someone key it. Depending on the person’s social circle, it’s a lot more humiliating being cheated on.
There’s also stds or just the fact that your significant other might have slept with someone else a few hours ago and then climbs in bed and has relations with you right after. And we are talking about 20 years of marriage in this case, I can’t imagine how disrespectful it must feel.