Yeah, the father made a mistake. You’re the one that conflates making a mistake with an oopsie, nobody else has made that equivalence. Mistakes can be big and they can take lots of effort to correct. OP will surely deal with this in their own time and way with all the complex and contradictory and painful thoughts emotions.
But - OP is not an adult when living with their parents. Children or young adults are not adults. They have a dependency on their parents. OP is not responsible for their father. OP should not be required to take responsibility for their father’s mistakes. OP is getting caught in the middle of the worst conflict a child can be caught up in and they did nothing to deserve it.
I think what you are doing is projecting high moral ideals into this that are inconsiderate regarding the consequences when OP is asking for help and advice and support. This is the last thing OP needs right now and it is not helping them in any way. OP is in a moment of crisis.
Discuss morality all you want but this is the wrong context for it.
UrPartnerInCrime@sh.itjust.works 4 days ago
? It was literally point number 3 you made. How people make mistakes and it happens
The OP asked if they should have their mother’s back even though it means not having their best friend
Yes. Their best friend stooped to one of the lowest places they can go and now they want to stand by them. If they do, theyre are bad by association and deserve their mother’s eventually not talking to them either.
whaleross@lemmy.world 4 days ago
That’s you reading it that way and others not. Maybe this is your point two playing tricks on you now?
Dude, I don’t know if you are consciously cherry picking to win this argument or if any best interest of OP simply does not exist for you.
Regardless, I have no interest in discussing this further with you as it seems to be a self fulfilling purpose disconnected from the original post. I’m out.
UrPartnerInCrime@sh.itjust.works 4 days ago
Also, you say im cherry picking but you’re the one going around saying “read point 2 again” as if your not cherry picking your own commandments
UrPartnerInCrime@sh.itjust.works 4 days ago
Still ain’t an airport. Don’t have to announce your departure.
My argument has been the same since the beginning as literally the first comment. Sticking with dad is also choosing the new chick in the mom’s eyes. What dad did is deplorable and OP staying with shows their morals and lack of them