If it means anything, very very few people in this world feel truly attractive, women included. Body image, self-esteem, fashion, fat and muscle; almost every person on this earth is aspiring to standards they can’t reach and feeling distressed at what they perceive to be their failure.

You believe being a woman means being inherently desirable because you Young women definitely get attention, but its commonly threatening and not validating. It likely wouldn’t be fulfilling for you because it’s people who see you as a prop for their own experience. Your value isn’t part of that.

If what you want is to feel desirable, your odds are better if you’re attracted to women. In relationships, women more commonly value non-visible traits like communication, resilience, consideration, humour, and skill. Attraction is more holistic. I’ve known of at least two men getting married with almost no face at all (one taken off by a grizzly bear, the other obscured by large benign growths). Both had kids, too. In a healthy relationship, holistic desire grows.

You believe being a woman means being inherently desirable because you are presumably straight and desire women. You believe you must beautiful to get that because that’s what you most desire in women. Neither has to be true of you.

You are thirsty in the desert, and that’s awful. You fantasise about drowning in the lake because it looks like a solution to your problem, just as the downers desperately wish they could stand on the solid cracked earth.