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Females does mean women or girls, and they wrote young. It is logical to write men when boys are absent or not discussed. Again: where’s the necessity for males?

The context doesn’t indicate the writer uses females abusively, so picking over that word looks indiscriminate like the critic is stigmatizing the word itself. Again: what good does that advance?

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boletus@sh.itjust.works ⁨5⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago
He’s looking for young girls then. I’m not sure that’s such a good thing, nor does it make his use of females any better.

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- lmmarsano@lemmynsfw.com ⁨5⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago
  Not sure friend requests count as “looking” in that sense. Young girls is a bit of a reach: young females could mean girls or young women where the age of the girl is unspecified.
  
  Great job not answering the questions: a sign of real integrity.
  
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  - boletus@sh.itjust.works ⁨5⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago
    Well if you want an answer to the question it’s purely the way it comes off. A lot of women I know get the ick when people use the word female in that context.
    
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    lmmarsano@lemmynsfw.com ⁨4⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago
    
    A lot of women I know get the ick
    
    And a lot don’t. Icks aren’t valid reasons & can be unjustified.
    
    We all can read context as written without free associating extra assumptions. The context doesn’t indicate offensive use of females.
    
    If you read what someone wrote, twist it into something else, & judge them for it, that is unjustified. What good does it promote?
    
    More broadly
    
    if you want an answer
    
    wasn’t given. As stated before
    
    Regardless of motive, the act is the same: indiscriminately picking problems over females. If everyone did that, females would be generally accepted as a dirty, toxic word.
    
    The question remains: what good is advanced by treating females like a dirty, toxic word?
    
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CileTheSane@lemmy.ca ⁨4⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

Females does mean women or girls, and they wrote young

So OP is asking what’s wrong with young girls that they don’t accept friend requests from strange men, and your asking why people are pointing that out as a problem?

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- lmmarsano@lemmynsfw.com ⁨4⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago
  
  asking what’s wrong with young girls
  
  Already answered: they wrote young females.
  
  strange men
  
  They wrote mutuals.
  
  your asking why people are pointing that out as a problem
  
  Nope: question clearly stated above about picking over a word.
  
  You get points, though, for picking over the message instead of a word: notice females not mentioned.
  
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  - CileTheSane@lemmy.ca ⁨4⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago
    
    they wrote young females.
    
    And you just said “females” refers to women or girls.
    
    So if they are sending friend requests to “young females” then they are sending friend requests to “young women” or “young girls”.
    
    If they don’t want to sound like they are sending friend requests to the young girls of their coworkers (all of their mutuals after all) then “young women” would have been the better word to use.
    
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    lmmarsano@lemmynsfw.com ⁨4⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago
    
    “young females” then they are sending friend requests to “young women” or “young girls”.
    
    Nope, doesn’t follow logically. As I wrote at the link you willfully ignored, it could mean girls or young women, since they are female & they are young: I think you know that. Some word choices circumvent disagreements over words with vague distinctions: while no choice is wrong or offensive, young female is less opinionated & unlikely to clash with varied opinions on the distinction between girls & young women.
    
    Your diversion, however, leads nowhere & doesn’t answer the question raised before.
    
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