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PeleSpirit@lemmy.world 1 year agoDo you know what hospital it is? They might want to study your issue or can give advice to get around the system. In Seattle, we have the UW teaching and they do things for less. Teaching hospitals are the best for mystery illnesses.
FlyingSquid@lemmy.world 1 year ago
Yes, I do know which hospital and it is connected with a university, but I still have to pay for it, which will still mean more medical debt. Good point about giving others the opportunity to do good.
PeleSpirit@lemmy.world 1 year ago
I know your stressed, but your health is more important than money and pride. It’s much easier to see from my point of view, I know. I’ve been in your situation myself though and it really sucks. But once you’ve asked for help, it’s strangely not that big of a deal.
FlyingSquid@lemmy.world 1 year ago
It’s definitely pride over stress, but I don’t agree with you about it not being that big of a deal. I still look back on times I’ve asked for help and felt embarrassed by it even though I know I had no other option at the time. I guess I’m kind of messed up that way? So I’ll feel guilty regardless, but it sounds like it’s necessary.
PeleSpirit@lemmy.world 1 year ago
I’m going to tell you how I got through it, but feel free to ignore as it might not apply. At some point in your life, you made a decision that asking for money is bad. For example, you were 8 and one of your friend’s parents asked for money from your parents. Your 8 year old mind wondered why they didn’t have enough money and work harder for it and your mind may have all kinds of reasons to judge them. Maybe your parents were happy but poor so they seemed like they had money but really didn’t. I was Catholic growing up so being poor was celebrated, that’s why you should give 10% every month, lol. Anyway, that decision when you judged those people or yourself is way in the past and your brain wasn’t fully there. Now your battling between the opposites of “I need it and I know it’s best for me and my partner,” but in your subconscious, your mind is yelling at you to not be that guy. “I should be better at this stuff by now,” etc., etc.
My therapist gave me this technique and it works to soothe the battles. It’s so freaking stupid and simple, but for some reason it works. If you were to follow it, it would go like this (it can be in your mind if you’re not physically able to step forward):
Now do the opposite with, “Bring on going to go into a huge debt and never asking for help.”
This should make your body feel something because it’s that struggle making you unable to make a decision and pulling up all sorts of baggage. As I was typing this out, I think it also remakes your long ago, immature (rightfully so), decisions.
Again, no worries if this isn’t for you. It really has helped me unpack most of my baggage and you seem like you need to settle your inner battles because your body needs to concentrate on healing.