Comment on Should try again tomorrow

• frog@feddit.uk ⁨4⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

  In “How to Win Friends and Inflence People”, the author found that people that were described as great coversationalists are usually the ones that look like they are actively listening and not talking much.

  In my own experience this is is correct.

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  • Nalivai@lemmy.world ⁨4⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

    But also, the evidence that that guy mostly used in his books is “That’s what I recon this week”, not something scientific.

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    • idiomaddict@lemmy.world ⁨4⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

      Just FYI, to reckon is to figure and recon is short for reconnaissance, so to investigate/scout behind enemy lines or metaphorically do the same.

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      • Nalivai@lemmy.world ⁨4⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

        Thanks, fixed

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  • Venus_Ziegenfalle@feddit.org ⁨4⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

    That may very well be true but that’s a very analytic way of handling things and one that will probably make social interactions quite unpleasant and stressful. I think you can be a good listener and an interesting conversation partner without effectively becoming a people pleaser. It’s just more sustainable long term.

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    • Takapapatapaka@lemmy.world ⁨4⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

      I interact with people that way, and find this very pleasant : trying to guess what subject they will be happy to talk about is a fun game, makes people happy, and is interesting most of the time. And from my experience, most people end up doing the same thing with you, and offer you some time to talk.

      Now as you wisely said, we are a lot of different people with a lot of different way, so you’re right defending that there’s no ‘superior’ way, but there definitely is a way where being a people pleaser is pleasant :D

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