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ImmersiveMatthew@sh.itjust.works ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

I am unsure if that is completely true as my past experience in the lifestyle was that everyone was very on top of regular STD (think you meant this not SDI) testing and safe sex practices to protect all involved, whereas normal dating there is a lot less of that plus secret polycules you are not even aware you are in (cheating). Not seen a study on this but this was my observation at least.

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Hugin@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago
Yeah my fluid bonded girlfriend had a condom break with her other boyfriend. So she just told me and we switched to condoms until she could get retested. No big deal.

If we hadn’t been poly it would either have been a I cheated on you conversation or worse she exposed my to possible STD without my consent.

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xor@lemmy.dbzer0.com ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago
STI… but the problems with people cheating are present in polycules or any other relationship…
people lie and cheat….

i’m not saying they’re completely bad and nobody should ever do it (sorry downvoters, you have my blessings), it’s just the kind of thing that concerns me in these scenarios….

afaik, people tend to do things like get herpes, not tell anyone, and tell people it’s not even worth tripping over… just a lil herpes…

and as long as your polycule isn’t a closed loop, it’s essentially infinitely large….

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- YarHarSuperstar@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago
  Personally I would never be in a relationship with someone who would do that but i am pretty picky with very firm boundaries.
  
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  - xor@lemmy.dbzer0.com ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago
    people i wouldn’t think would do such things end up surprising me
    
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    YarHarSuperstar@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago
    Yeah no one would fuck with me like that besides my family if they had a legit convo with me. Over text is kind of whatever. Its like that Tyler tweet one sec I’ll find it
    
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- ImmersiveMatthew@sh.itjust.works ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago
  STI you are correct. I realized this earlier when I was reading reading. I will fix.
  
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  - xor@lemmy.dbzer0.com ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago
    STD isn’t wrong, it’s just an older term…
    
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