Comment on Anon is worried about men
NewSocialWhoDis@lemm.ee 3 weeks agoYea, honestly, as a feminist, I think this is reasonable and healthy. How many long term relationships really result from drunken hookups? It’s just an exercise in risky behavior with a complete stranger when you’re judgement is impaired.
HexesofVexes@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
I mean, build on that idea a little further.
Sex is an extreme example, but now consider the cases of opening up a bit; showing emotional vulnerability; taking that first step of trust; telling that special someone you actually do love to play with Lego.
All of these carry the same risks for all involved - the social ramifications of a failed attempt to bond is somewhat higher than in our current “clout hunting” era (remember, clout doesn’t just exist online).
Relationships are complex critters - some are built on risk, some are built on the aversion of such, and some are built upon a complex dance between the two (for what is life but a twistedly beautiful lottery)?
NewSocialWhoDis@lemm.ee 3 weeks ago
I can’t really tell what your argument is here. Are you arguing that people substitute social media interactions for real life connection? And that they get enough from social media to not think vulnerability is worth it?
I guess I can agree to that in some general way for novices to social media (people like me in 2007 or young kids now), but in my generation I’ve observed people valuing it less as we age. Once you mature, if you mature, you can judge your own lack of fulfillment from hours spent on social media.