I don’t know about you, but I am very reluctant to insult others, even in private conversations, even if they might deserve it

I always try to approach things constructively, because in the end, those patterns and thoughts bleed out into the world and your behaviour

And do keep in mind, even from the person’s who was part of the asshole gang side of the story, it sounds pretty darn bad, and people have a tendency to downplay their side’s wrongdoings and elevate the other side’s. Chances are, it was probably quite bad

If there’s people in my life that go around talking badly about other like that, even in private… yeah, I’d want to stay the hell away from them too. It’s just a massive warming sign, and you’re going to be the target sooner or later. And you don’t want a coordinated group acting in bad faith against you