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Comment on Rishi Sunak says people ‘can’t be any sex they want to be’ in new swipe at trans community

AllahFucksKids@fedia.io ⁨8⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

Doesn't have to go that far. How about just saying the truth: you can't make people call you what you want. Have whatever sexual proclivities you want, but it is downright irrational to get mad at people for not being pleased with Trans people wanting to be accepted for their sexual proclivities by the general public. A dude in a dress getting mad at people for not calling them a woman is just so fucking selfish and entitled I just can't understand it.

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PoliticalAgitator@lemm.ee ⁨8⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago
And do you ever intentionally misgender cis people and refuse to use their legal names because they don’t measure up to some standard of yours, or do you reserve that shittiness for trans people exclusively?

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- AllahFucksKids@fedia.io ⁨8⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago
  Sure do. Accidentally called my cycling instructor Ma'am during a cycling class. Said "Yes Ma'am" when I meant Sir. You know what he did? He laughed. Because he's not retarded fighting some imaginary war against the pp in his pants.
  
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  - PoliticalAgitator@lemm.ee ⁨8⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago
    Sure don’t then. You openly admitted it was an accident, you just wanted to share the story so you could call trans people “retarded”.
    
    We both know what would happen if you deliberately misgendered him and flatly refused to use his actual name because you decided your take on them was more important than their identity.
    
    But you won’t, because he’s not on your list of people you consider it socially acceptable to be a cunt to.
    
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    AllahFucksKids@fedia.io ⁨8⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago
    Ohhhhohoho please, go on lmao enlighten me? What does your adorable little brain think would happen?
    
    Fair point also, I misread that it was not intentional. Lol look, here's my address I'f you want someone to kick my ass so bad come on over:
    
    131 NW 85th Pl Miami, FL 33126
    
    Come on through, show me what that cycling instruction woulda done HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA!!!!!!!!
    
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HeartyBeast@kbin.social ⁨8⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

A dude in a dress getting mad at people for not calling them a woman is just so fucking selfish and entitled I just can't understand it.

Generally, I tend to follow the IETF guidance on protocol - be conservative in what you transmit, be liberal in what you accept. If someone wants to be known by a particular gender, go for it. You are deliberately trying to wind someone up by using a different pronoun, it's not surpring they get grumpy. What harm does it do to you? None.

But if you accidentally do it, I agree it's probably not something to get mad over, just something to correct you on.

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- AllahFucksKids@fedia.io ⁨8⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago
  Let me be clear, I do not intentionally misgender people. I'm not conservative. I still don't see how people get mad at others for this. Am I wrong for seeing that BOTH parties are dickheads? I know I said "a dude in a dress" but I'm not going around talking like that to people in person. I couldn't give less of a fuck. That being said, I'm still aware it's just a dude in a dress. I'm still aware that you're asking too much if you think you're going out in a dress with a 5' O clock shadow and people aren't going to fuck with you.
  
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  - HeartyBeast@kbin.social ⁨8⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago
    
    That being said, I'm still aware it's just a dude in a dress.
    
    That’s sounds like a particularly unempathetic way to think about the subject. You could be talking about someone who has taken the big step to have recently undergone surgery and/or hormone treatment to handle dysmorphia and has embarked on a difficult journey. A little kindness doesn’t go amiss.
    
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    AllahFucksKids@fedia.io ⁨8⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago
    On this I cannot disagree. I do lack empathy for many things. My life has been very hard too. Homeless as a minor hard. That teaches you one important lesson. Your problems are your own.
    
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HopeOfTheGunblade@kbin.social ⁨8⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago
Could you please explain your understanding of being trans? Because what you're describing doesn't match what I've been told about the condition.

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bandoodle@feddit.uk ⁨8⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago
I think that’s maybe where you’re misunderstanding it. This person would not be a “dude in a dress”. They would be a woman in a dress but with a male body. So next time you see an identifiably obvious trans person, think of them as the gender they are, trapped in the opposite-sex body (like it’s a medical problem with their body), and be glad that’s not one of your battles in life, and empathetic to those who are trying to live the life they should be able to.

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- AllahFucksKids@fedia.io ⁨8⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago
  Trust me I get that this is a legitimate medical issue. There's studies that show transitioned trans people are much happier. It greatly improves their life. I'm not denying that. I'm just trying to say: asking others to be empathetic is a waste of time, and quite honestly a bit childish. It's really NOT that important to the rest of us. I personally would NEVER say anything mean to a Trans person, in real life. If I see you want to be a woman I'll treat you that way no problem. No skin off my back. AT THE SAME TIME you cannot expect to get that reaction from everyone. Trans people should just have a bit more self awareness to the fact that it is asking too much to be ridicule free, or immediately accepted. Black people were slaves for hundreds of years and still get racism today, their only crime was the color of their skin. The Trans road will not be a short one, they better buckle up or they won't make it to the destination.
  
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