If you think about it, both are technically correct. But what they are both seeing is the end result. They aren’t seeing the internal motions and the paying attention to detail, etc.

But in the case of incels, they think it’s unfair that Chads get to have sex and they don’t because they see nothing wrong with themselves. Since they are perfect it’s the system that is wrong

And this is why the alt right have their hooks in them. Oppressing women is their brand.