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• TheLadyAugust@lemmy.world ⁨7⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

  Yeah, Snot did a really good job. I’m actually saving this to forward on to other people. Thank you for making this post and thank you Snot for your reply.

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  • EnthusiasticNature94@lemmy.blahaj.zone ⁨7⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

    Also, somewhat off-topic, but since you mentioned sharing important explanations to others, I have some that have worked for me. Feel free to disregard if they’re not helpful for you.

    What I personally found persuasive when speaking with men is citing the research that 87% of rapes are explained by repeat offenders, which is 3% of men. That means 5 out of 6 rapes are done by a very, very small portion of men.

    And it might explain some of the disconnect. 95% of men didn’t rape anyone, so they might be genuinely confused at the strong reaction.

    I also explain that rape causes the equivalent of $122,461 in damages to the victims. This is just what is quantifiable and measurable via econometrics - the subjective damage is obviously much higher (and I am personally seeking reparations for much higher than this based on my own calculations).

    5% odds with a random man might not initially seem that bad to some until I explain that it’s equivalent to rolling a nat 1 in D&D. That and you are literally rolling a 1d20 for each men you encounter, so unless you only meet at most 19 men in your lifetime, you’re expected on average to roll a nat 1.

    I don’t have the names of research papers memorized off the top of my head, but both of these are Google-able.

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    • ArcaneSlime@lemmy.dbzer0.com ⁨7⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

      Yo thanks for posting this. It’s frustrating as hell to not only be one of the 95% who have never raped, but one of those 33.3% of men raped by women (twice, actually, two different women, three if you count GFs crying and threatening suicide every time you’re not in the mood until you give in, not sure if counts), and still get treated like I’m some crazed rapist instead of a victim due solely to my gender.

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  • EnthusiasticNature94@lemmy.blahaj.zone ⁨7⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

    Haha, no need to thank me!

    It was more out of survival instincts and gauging my environment.

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