Comment on Anti-acknowlegements
themoken@startrek.website 1 day agoNobody is arguing that the patriarchy fucks men harder than women because you’re right, it doesn’t.
Your dismissal of the military issue and suicide is an example of your, and society’s, complete lack of empathy for men. Sure, it’s not women sending men to die, or directly causing them to feel hopeless, but that doesn’t somehow mean they aren’t victims of the patriarchy.
Did I personally get ordered to die? No, but I sure as hell had my role as an emotionless working machine, the assumed self-sufficient breadwinner that needed to support my entire family myself even if it meant my life was expendable, pushed on me by men, women, religion, and the media. And if I didn’t want that role or failed to live up to it, I’m a fucking loser and the community doesn’t care that I fed myself to a meat grinder and came out broken.
I promise, it’s possible to have empathy for the women who are being fucked by the patriarchy as well as the men simultaneously. Going back to my initial comment, it was never trying to disregard the scientist in the post, only dispel this idea that there is some individual that hasn’t experienced sexism/patriarchy.
NotLemming@lemm.ee 1 day ago
I have empathy for men, in fact all genders are experiencing all of the issues you had mentioned as specific to men. I mentioned conscription because that’s something which hasn’t happened in the west in the lifetime of most men alive today. I might as well complain that women can’t vote. Why don’t you have empathy for women who can’t vote? You know why women usually don’t usually fight in war? Because men don’t just try to kill them, they use sexual violence against them. Not just the enemy but their own comrades.
I don’t know if you realise but women also wage slave and for a hell of a lot less money usually. They’re cleaners, carers, doing the dirty jobs noone else wants. Then they often go home and take care of their kids and chores -women’s work. All while getting zero respect from society. And if the man leaves for any reason, she’s a single mother and therefore worthless. If you want to learn, watch the maid. That’s a good example of a woman struggling against the patriarchy. The father of the kid in that show is struggling too and I do think he deserves empathy but I see who has it worse.
themoken@startrek.website 1 day ago
You keep getting hung up on conscription as if there aren’t thousands of men who went to war in the last 25 years. You don’t have to be drafted to get killed or traumatized, and just because you enlisted doesn’t mean you deserved everything that happened to you (esp. when most enlist are poor, have no prospects, and get effectively brainwashed as a teenager that the military is an out).
As for the rest, yes have empathy for single parents and wage slaves of any gender. I’m sorry sexual assault is thing that happens to many women.
NotLemming@lemm.ee 1 day ago
So…you also want us to feel sorry for people who chose to sign up to be a soldier, knowing what that would entail? There are also women who died or were maimed or abused in war. Not as many, because not as many women chose that (or could choose that).
That’s kind of the point, someone can make a bad choice because of poor education and prospects, but another person is given no choice. I’d argue the person with no choices is worse off. Men have historically denied women the right to choose and I see that attitude is on the rise. Its unhelpful to say ‘what about men’ when talking about the struggles of women and marginalised genders.
Not that male struggles aren’t important, but its exactly the same as when a marginalised race says ‘black lives matter’ and a white person says ‘all lives matter’. The latter is true, but doesn’t need to be said - everyone already agrees. Noone is trying specifically to take rights away from men, and definitely not women. Its not just the patriarchy that fucks all people, but capitalism. Women’s issues go beyond that because people also in a state of being fucked by patriarchy/capitalism are hurting them specifically because they’re women.
I do think that if decent people can try to understand the different struggles and be allies for each other, that’s how we all win. It’s just that given the fact that when so many women are being harmed by men, is it surprising that a lot of women are untrusting and even hostile? Like the 4B movement. Its bad enough that there’s still a gender pay gap, that CEOs are rarely women etc. They’re seeing their hard won rights dwindle away in real time.
gamermanh@lemmy.dbzer0.com 1 day ago
Man, you’re really trying to disprove your claim of having empathy for men, aren’tcha?