Comment on What is the attraction to kids?
HelixDab2@lemm.ee 1 year agoI feel a bit bad for paedophiles in that they’re basically forced to have relationships with persons that they don’t find very sexually attractive, else they break the law.
I’ve seen a paper–which I unfortunately did not bookmark–that seemed to indicate that most pedophiles were not exclusively pedophiles; many are able to have romantic and sexual relationships with age-appropriate partners. They also tend to have a distinct gender preference for minors (e.g., a person that is a heterosexual and a pedophile will prefer minors that are in-line with their sexual orientation). The ones that are ‘pure’ pedophiles–not sexually attracted to any adults at all–do not seem to have a gender preference, which kinda makes sense when you consider secondary sex characteristics as markers of physical maturity, e.g., young boys and girls look physically very similar aside from the genitals themselves. Again - I don’t have the reference on this saved, so I might be misremembering, or misrepresenting it, but this is what I recall.
there are exactly zero underage people who they can interact with at all sexually.
There’s a genetic disorder–I believe exclusively in women–where they don’t ‘grow up’; they don’t get very tall, they’re largely lacking in secondary sexual characteristics, and I believe that they’re infertile. I ran into a woman like that–who was with her partner–at a fetish event. It really gave me whiplash, because at first, second, and third glances she looked like she was 12, at an event that had explicit sexual activity in the open. It took a closer look at her face to realize that she was in her 30s. God bless her, she found someone that was attracted to her, and into the same shit she was into. So, y’know, there’s that.
MystikIncarnate@lemmy.ca 1 year ago
I’ve heard of that genetic condition. It’s fascinating, and as far as I know, extremely rare.
I know that at least one has spoken publicly about her experience, and they touched on dating and the implication was that most of the people that are interested, are paedophiles, and that didn’t sit well for her, and I expect that wouldn’t sit well for most people, especially those with that condition.
Fascinating information all around. I don’t have a doubt that is accurate.
HelixDab2@lemm.ee 1 year ago
She’s got a catch-22 there; if she doesn’t want to date anyone that’s attracted to her because they’re likely a pedophile, then she’s not going to ever be able to have any romantic relationships (assuming that she wants them). I guess if that were me, I’d rather date a person that was sexually and romantically attracted to me–despite knowing that they were also sexually attracted to minors–than live life completely alone.
MystikIncarnate@lemmy.ca 1 year ago
That was the take away. She was rather upset about it, which is apparently good for ratings but tragic overall.
I suppose it depends on what she really wants in life, which I won’t presume to know. I wish her the best, that’s not a fun condition to deal with.