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Comment on work related: is this something only an autistic would ask?

Not neurotypical, but I have ADHD so some of the same stuff you may experience being autistic applies. Not one for one, but I also know a few autistic people and my partner is autistic.

To start, nothing needs to be “wrong” with you to have autism. Its just a different way of thinking and processing. I often tell myself the same thing, I’m not bad or wrong for having ADHD, I’m just different. Just wanted to throw that out there, its very easy to get caught up in that thinking and I’m guilty of it as well.

As for what you experienced, some people just blow up when they’ve had a bad day or are stressed. Your question doesn’t really seem off or unreasonable, I think the way that person handled it was in the wrong if anything. You shouldn’t yell at anyone like that under normal circumstances, certainly not at work.

The way you responded was more indicative of being autistic to an extent.

IMO, nothing wrong with you my friend, seems they had an issue.

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vestmoria@linux.community ⁨4⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

The way you responded was more indicative of being autistic to an extent.

would you please elaborate? What gives me away?

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- Bluefruit@lemmy.world ⁨4⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago
  Most folks would get mad or say something if someone yelled at them. When you have autism or other neurodivergence of some kind, you tend to respond to things differently.
  
  Since you just said “ok” without explanation or complaint, and then hung up, thats very matter of fact, straight to the point, and lacks the more emotional response most neurotypical people would have.
  
  This is of course just my opinion based on what you have mentioned and my own personal experiences. Not everyone presents Autsim in the same way and I’m not a classic example of ADHD, so take all that with a grain of salt.
  
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  - vestmoria@linux.community ⁨3⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago
    
    Since you just said “ok” without explanation or complaint, and then hung up, thats very matter of fact, straight to the point, and lacks the more emotional response most neurotypical people would have.
    
    because I don’t want drama and when I work I get, as you put it, straight to the point. Why wasting words and time?
    
    I guess now I’m even more autistic…
    
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    Bluefruit@lemmy.world ⁨3⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago
    Absolutely agreed, I get where your coming from. My point being is that a neurotypical would at least have put some emotion into their response or maybe try to deescalate.
    
    That said, reading through the other comments, it looks like there was more to the interaction. Either way, I dont think the other person handled it well. You didn’t do anything wrong in your response to her yelling at you. Hanging up the phone and walking away is perfectly reasonable.
    
    I myself would have probably been very anxious in the moment and furious after.
    
    Everyone is different though, its a spectrum for a reason.
    
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Lost_My_Mind@lemmy.world ⁨4⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

To start, nothing needs to be “wrong” with you to have autism. Its just a different way of thinking and processing.

I don’t have anything to add. I just wanted to highlight this important part, so it doesn’t get lost in the weeds. This right here needs to be the biggest takeaway, even if we don’t come to a conclusion about why the coworker lost their shit.

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