Comment on Am I a bad friend/rude for not engaging with my friends and giving one-word responses?

• ocean@lemmy.selfhostcat.com ⁨4⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

  Feels like you don’t want to be friends with them. You respond more to me than them and idk you.

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  • CatDemons4@lemmings.world ⁨4⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

    I mean, I guess I do, but I’m terrible at socializing and also don’t like it

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    • TeamAssimilation@infosec.pub ⁨4⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

      Socialization is a skill, not a gift. If you want to become strong, you have to work out at the gym, if you want to socialize, you have to interact more with people.

      Very few people are bad at socializing, they’re bad at making an effort to socialize, because it’s painful at the beginning, like working out.

      May be due to a traumatic experience, a pernicious environment, even plain laziness; but we are not set in stone, can change if we want to, and grown ups enough to live with the consequences if we don’t.

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      • CatDemons4@lemmings.world ⁨4⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

        Was this a better effort?

        “how are you?” “Listening to music.” “what band??” “Idk. Metallica or something” “what song from them? i love metallica” “Idk” —- “what are you up to today?” “Watching TV” “what show?” “Idk I can’t say”

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      • CatDemons4@lemmings.world ⁨4⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

        Thank you so much. It’s probably a mix of depression and laziness then

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    • Onomatopoeia@lemmy.cafe ⁨4⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

      If you don’t like socializing, you won’t have friends. Those things go hand-in-hand.

      Maybe examining why you feel this way about socializing would help. Do you really not enjoy all socializing, or just certain things?

      Socializing is a major part of life, you could almost say it’s “The Thing”. I’m not saying you need to go throw on a lampshade every day, just that we’re all engaging with each other every day. You may talk to a sibling for a while, then a friend, have lunch with a coworker, take a walk with someone from a class to discuss what you’re not getting.

      Without socializing, we may as well go live in a cave, and that’s not good (nor realistic).

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      • CatDemons4@lemmings.world ⁨3⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

        I guess I just feel more energized when I’m alone

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