Comment on Am I a bad friend/rude for not engaging with my friends and giving one-word responses?
ocean@lemmy.selfhostcat.com 4 days ago
I responded to the last time you posted this, that yes you are. I would just stop responding to you. If you don’t want to engage then why respond at all? You can type out this long post but only one worded replies?
CatDemons4@lemmings.world 4 days ago
Well I can talk about my feelings and experiences easily, I’m just bad at communicating with people unless I’m interested in it
ocean@lemmy.selfhostcat.com 4 days ago
Feels like you don’t want to be friends with them. You respond more to me than them and idk you.
CatDemons4@lemmings.world 4 days ago
I mean, I guess I do, but I’m terrible at socializing and also don’t like it
TeamAssimilation@infosec.pub 4 days ago
Socialization is a skill, not a gift. If you want to become strong, you have to work out at the gym, if you want to socialize, you have to interact more with people.
Very few people are bad at socializing, they’re bad at making an effort to socialize, because it’s painful at the beginning, like working out.
May be due to a traumatic experience, a pernicious environment, even plain laziness; but we are not set in stone, can change if we want to, and grown ups enough to live with the consequences if we don’t.
Onomatopoeia@lemmy.cafe 4 days ago
If you don’t like socializing, you won’t have friends. Those things go hand-in-hand.
Maybe examining why you feel this way about socializing would help. Do you really not enjoy all socializing, or just certain things?
Socializing is a major part of life, you could almost say it’s “The Thing”. I’m not saying you need to go throw on a lampshade every day, just that we’re all engaging with each other every day. You may talk to a sibling for a while, then a friend, have lunch with a coworker, take a walk with someone from a class to discuss what you’re not getting.
Without socializing, we may as well go live in a cave, and that’s not good (nor realistic).