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sp3tr4l@lemmy.zip 6 days agoI know this will sound cynical…
…but a whole, whole lot of younger, brainrotted tiktok addicts with narcissistic personalities and negative attention spans will describe themselves as pan or bi when they aren’t at all, because they can use it as an idpol thing, an extra reason to legitimate their anger directed at anyone critical of them, a vapid empty signifier that has no real meaning beyond ‘people i think are funny or hot or popular say they are bi/pan/omni, so I am too!’
CatDemons4@lemmings.world 6 days ago
But I find women pretty…? Sure, I can’t name any female crushes, but that doesn’t make me less bi/pan. Sexuality is a spectrum.
Yes, I LOVE men, and women don’t give me the spark, but I love the idea of finally being able to say “I love my girlfriend!”. Plus, a lot of women are very soft and playful, and as a woman, I think I could date and understand most women.
I just haven’t found the right woman because my type is athletic and extroverted. Shy people are annoying, TBH. And they HAVE to like men. Part of dating women means I have to relate to them, and I can’t relate to a lesbian woman.
vithigar@lemmy.ca 5 days ago
People find sunsets pretty. That doesn’t mean they’re heliosexual. Finding a thing aesthetically pleasing is distinct from being sexually or romantically attracted.
CatDemons4@lemmings.world 4 days ago
I can see myself with men, not with women though. They are nice to flirt with and have common interests with (especially MENNNN, this is why I don’t have many lesbian friends) and they have to be extroverted, which is why I don’t like neurodivergent people as friends. they’re cool, but if they have autism, they’re mostly kinda weird (No offense, ADHD people just seem more social).
I don’t know, because I would probably date a woman if I met the right one, but I can’t name a time a woman has ever interested me.