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• theangryseal@lemmy.world ⁨12⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

  Good lord, my ex. Everything was a guessing game with her and she liked it that way because if things were calm and normal she wasn’t happy.

  I’m so happy to be in a relationship with someone where we say what we mean and communicate our needs.

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  • WastingCommentSpace@sh.itjust.works ⁨1⁩ ⁨hour⁩ ago

    I apologize but i guess ive just come to the conclusion that such a thing is illusory. All relationships break down eventually. And i think anyone who doesnt think all things die over time is rather naive.

    Ive realized im happier not chasing something that doesnt exist and isnt attainable even if others seem to think it exists for short or long moments of their lives.

    I think communication breakdown is inevitable and its why 2025 has gone the way it has.

    Maybe im wrong and all things can actually be immortal or timeless but i see no evidence. I just wish people wouldnt gaslight everyone around them into thinking romance isnt subject to death. Its why im like this in the first place. Its a massive lie and its harmful to spread. As harmful as the soulmate concept.

    Buuut i dont have interest anymore so i guess i just dont deal with it or care. It just makes me sad to watch friends go through the same pointless cycles i did. It often feels like i only recently took a step back and realized how crazy i was for desiring such a thing. When i see others in romance i just pity them. They dont know its going to end. And the cycle will start over.

    People can say communication this communication that. But you only communicate until things change. And with change as a constant it is a repetetive and pointless cycle i wish to avoid i suppose.

    At least this is how i see it. Im sure many will think of this as a negative view rather than a practical view.

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  • Pandantic@midwest.social ⁨11⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

    I feel this so much - why not just say what you want/need? It makes relationships so much easier. I will admit, it took a lot of fumbles for me to realize that, tho. 😅

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    • theangryseal@lemmy.world ⁨11⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

      It depends on how you’re raised I think, and then you gotta fuck up and figure it out when you get older.

      It’s a disease in my family. I was talking with my uncle the other day and he had been upset with his wife. He didn’t tell her, he just went and slept on the couch. Done the whole cold shoulder thing.

      I told him he needs to spit out whatever he’s feeling in that moment if he wants things to work. No sense sitting on it thinking the other person should know why you’re upset. Different things hit people different ways. Something that might make your blood boil might get a chuckle out of me.

      You have to talk and express these things or it won’t work. I’m glad I know that now and am applying it in the relationship I’m in today.

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