It’s just as much not a problem for them to be offended by it as it is for you to choose your words better. Knowing that you made a choice to offend so yeah, you’re the jerk. You’re honestly making a lot more of it if you went all this distance to think you’re the one hard done by just cuz you refuse to memorize some words.

Only bad actors looking for the drama go for the path of most resistance.

If you’re thinking the world was supposed to be a safe place for bullies: this is what we call a snowflake.