Comment on Anon trying understanding women
UnculturedSwine@lemmy.dbzer0.com 2 weeks ago
As a gay man who passes as straight, you can get a lot of gal pals just by treating women as friends instead of potential partners. A lot of women don’t really need a relationship, they just want a friendship.
CleoTheWizard@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
That’s not it chief, plenty of women want relationships. The issue is just that men don’t care to have them on the terms of women, men want relationships that cater to their needs or desires primarily.
Then the other half of it is that they’ve had so many men pretend to value their needs but then drop them the moment they show even a little bit of pullback or discomfort. So women realize that men don’t really care about them as people, they just want the end results.
So by agreeing to be friends with them, there’s no physicality to it and the only way friendships work is if that give and take exists. Which makes it much easier to appreciate someone’s good characteristics without the pressure men give to make such quick determinations.
Source: a bisexual that watches straight men cockblock themselves with their personalities constantly