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⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨If we cured all forms of cancer with the ease of taking a pill, what would be the next thing medicine would put the biggest focus on?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:
Monetizing that pill and wringing every last dollar out of it.
⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Plastic hinges on modern headphones⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:
It’s a dangerous position to put people in: run vulnerable software or we will break your device. No one should have to choose between breaking their TV via update or staying on an insecure OS version and getting hacked.

In a functioning economy, the consumer goal of not getting hacked and having a functional device would be shared by the consumer AND the manufacturer.
⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Plastic hinges on modern headphones⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:
Maybe they vibe coded the driver. :-D
⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Americans: How the hell do you meet new people or get into relationships after college?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:
If you ride the trails at night and follow the potent smell of skunk you will find either:

A. a skunk B. Some dudes named Jellyfish and Willy, parked a bit off the trail smoking a J on a park bench talking about metaphysics and fried food.
⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Americans: How the hell do you meet new people or get into relationships after college?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:
Hobbies. I struggled with this after college also because I left the church and my old social life had dried up. I was conditioned to just show up and my friends would be there and the nonreligious outside world doesn’t always work that way.

I would join a club or a group, preferably one with an even gender split or even a skew towards whoever you’re interested in dating. I found dancing in 2006. I never would have expected to get into it and probably spent most of the 90s calling it “gay”. I was tricked into going by a friend who said we were going bowling. I trusted her and she drove, so I had no escape. Many dances are “social” dances which means anyone can ask anyone to dance and you aren’t expected to bring a partner, most people don’t. I kept doing it and eventually started going without my friends. 20 years later, I have been in charge of running dances, I’ve been on the committee of large events, I’ve made some money teaching lessons, but most importantly of all, I’ve collected a circle of awesome supportive people, some acquaintances, some friends, and a handful that I’ve dated. Don’t go in with the intention of dating though because it counter intuitively guarantees you won’t find a date. Instead, just have fun. Ask the people who aren’t getting asked to dance, make friends, enjoy the music, etc. People notice when someone is capable of having fun on their own and they want to be a part of that. They appreciate someone who will dance with the sweet little old lady who shows up every week and not just the 10/10 blonde with the double D’s. My goal was always to dance with every woman in the room once, then go back for seconds with the people I most enjoyed dancing with. It can cost a few bucks to get in, but almost all of them will let you in free if you volunteer for a half hour to collect admissions or help set up/ tear down. It’s harder for guys (if you dance the lead role) to get started, but don’t be discouraged because we’re outnumbered and always in demand.

Biking is another good activity to meet people. You can join a club in many cities for a few bucks and they’ll basically send upcoming rides to your inbox all year round. If you’re not exercise inclined, there are also PEV (personal electric vehicle) rides in many cities that give you all of the fun and exploration with only a fraction of the workout.

Other good ideas: Frisbee golf league, ultimate Frisbee, hot springing (hot spring hippies are cool and very welcoming), poetry slams, board game parlours (these seem to be popping up everywhere) etc.
⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨[deleted]⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:
I find myself using this all the time. I search for something in interested in, start reading the post, then realize I wrote it.
⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨(serious) What would we be losing in a world where most people didn't own a car? Please read the OP before posting.⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:
It’s like that here. I drove 15 minutes to school . My alternator died and I had to ride the bus for a week. It took over an hour, not counting the lovely walk across a 6 lane expressway and through a WalMart parking lot to reach the bus stop! I think we need a gradient. In rural areas, we have individual vehicles, cars, bikes, motorcycles, etc. In suburban areas, we offer coupled trains where cars link together into trains and drive in sync on a guideway until they break apart for last mile connectivity. In urban areas, we ban all cars, build out public transit, bike lanes, etc. Small electric cars could be permitted for special needs and for tradesmen who carry tools. This future can’t happen in the US because they would just forget about us stuck poor’s and we’d lose all mobility.
⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Beyond fucked up⁩ ⁨⁨5⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:
Thats the ex-redditor in me; I can’t pass up a good pun.
⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Beyond fucked up⁩ ⁨⁨5⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:
That makes total sense. I’ve spent a lot of non-sexual hours sitting butt naked in the Sauna in Germany with hundreds of people. In the US, that would only happen in the woods with hippies. Thanks for sharing.
⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Beyond fucked up⁩ ⁨⁨5⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:
German-American here. I had a stint with organized religion and American purity culture. The church and “purity culture” messed me up pretty good, most notably in the 5 years after my deconversion. Americans love judging people for sex, then cheerfully do all the same things secretly themselves without an ounce of self-awareness. I still can’t decide if I have an irrationally strong fear of STDs brought about by American sex-ed, or of it’s a rational response to the fact that everyone is going around fucking without protection, many without a basic anotomical understanding of their own body. I wish we could get people to take safety seriously because we’re all connected in a giant fucking web.

What stood out the most to you about Americans sexual hang-ups?
⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨I am looking for a Linux OS⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago⁩:
Bazzite scared me when it chose not to boot one day. I had to do some sort of command and got it working again (saved the details to my system build notes). I can’t have stuff breaking on me so I was concerned. I haven’t had an issue since, so I’m pretty stoked on Bazzite now. I will say, I couldn’t get Steam Play working (the thing that let’s you play games remotely on a tablet or phone or whatever, Steam itself works fine). I fixed the issue with Sunlight/Moonlight which does the sane thing but did it with less lag, picture degradation. Personally, I suggest you hold out on choosing and load a few different distros on USB sticks to try. I recently built a PC for a family member and did some distrohopping to find the right OS for them.
⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Sooo... This is happening on Imgur⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:
Lol, I would wake up some time in February with an apetite sufficient to cause a global famine.
⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Amazon develops methods for inserting ads onto any flat surface in an existing video⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:
Inb4 someone writes a program and calls it AdblockAI. It gets trained on the shape of corporate logos and on the fly in-paints those regions of the screen to remove the logos.

On that same note, how about AR glasses that put black bars over ads and logos you encounter in real life so companies don’t get to subliminally advertise at you.
⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Amazon develops methods for inserting ads onto any flat surface in an existing video⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:
Rereading that, it’s not super clear who “they” is referring to. Here is what I was trying to say: In the past, some of our media has been revised to make it politically correct, books, film, and other media. I don’t agree with this, but I do think some of those people have good intentions. Putting ads on cultural artifacts (like our media) retroactively is whole new level of evil: supervillain evil. It’s like “Stonehenge, brought to you by CocaCola and Nestle” or “Skip the line at the Great Pyramid with Amazon Prime”. One is motivated by a misguided desire to protect everyone’s feefees. The other one is just pure greed.
⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Amazon develops methods for inserting ads onto any flat surface in an existing video⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:
They edited all the movie dialog to be woke/ now they’re gonna edit all the graphics to grab more money. :-D
⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨[deleted]⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:
I am thrilled every time I have the chance to reconnect with someone from high school whether it’s a student or a former teacher. Also, I’m close with someone who went through a period of physical limitations and I’m sorry to hear how this is affecting your social life. Even as a third party to my close friend’s experience, I can still conjour up powerful feelings of loneliness based on their experience.

I hope you have some great moments of reconnection!
⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Popular Tech Youtuber Enderman looses his YouTube channel after AI error⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:
Not to mention you can fit more Reddit on a 1TB hard drive than YouTube, which makes it much easier to exfiltrate content.
⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Popular Tech Youtuber Enderman looses his YouTube channel after AI error⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:
I have a feeling that the YouTube apocalypse will be much harder to watch (as in “more sad/unpleasant”) than the Reddit apocalypse.
⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Jesus hates American "Christians"⁩ ⁨⁨5⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:
It sounds like we were similarly inquisitive children, perhaps to the point of making adults uncomfortable.

My European mother is the reason religion didn’t fuck me up worse than it did. I was also forced to go to church as a kid, but even within our own family there were differences in thought and opinion that still managed to exist in civil dinner table discourse. My mother seems to have gone through her own questioning process, it just didn’t take her to extreme atheism but rather she arrived at more of a mystical Abrahammic monotheism. When I was older, I fell into the trap of religion on my own (Evangelical Christianity) and it’s changed the course of my life significantly in both good and bad ways.

A decade to a decade and a half later I’m mostly over it. I’m comfortable with my current belief system and I live life openly and honestly with 95% of people I meet. If I had to describe myself I’d call myself a self-rolled Buddhist-Atheist.

I’m not envious of those Christians with enough of a conscience to realize what’s going, but who are reliant on “American Christians™” for their community, support, spirituality/philosophy/introspection. They have difficult and painful decisions ahead of them. You can only ignore your conscience for so long, but the first to defect will be shunned and hated and will likely lose their entire social circles. That happened to me. They will also be susceptible, as we all are, to similar tactics and abuses as those doled out by their former religion. You don’t leave and suddenly become a mastermind at spotting abuse of power and become immediately immune. If anyone reading this falls into that category, I would recommend finding a nice, non-religious hobby where you see people from different walks of life on a regular basis. Bicycling groups, social dances, gardening collectives, etc. People are pretty nice outside of the bubble. You’ll be okay.
⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Jesus hates American "Christians"⁩ ⁨⁨5⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:
I’m a Buddatheist who grew up with both cultural Catholicism and later Christian Evangelicism.

I like how this hints at the nature of the self. If I leave someone behind am I not also leaving myself behind?

For me, ethical acts are those that increase the freedom of the self and others. We all suffer. That’s a fact of life. If we dissolve our concept of the self and acknowledge our link to others and the world itself we can see ourselves more as threads going through human experience. If we are kind to ourselves and “others”, we have a better chance at reducing that suffering.

Imagine the time a stranger forgot their wallet and you paid for their coffee. A version of that experience could still exist in that person’s mind long after you die. It could get blended with other experiences and reinterpreted. It could be told as a story to a friend who was inspired by the act. The cascading effects of that person being properly caffeinated on that day could have world changing effects. In a similar way, I carry the shared experiences of my own ancestors and even strangers who have shared their stories with me. They are still alive as a small part of me because my true self is humanity or even some animating life force of the universe or something like that and the name that people call me just refers to the limited perspective and incomplete view I have of existence. Essentially I see existence as blinders limiting my perspective like a race horse, but the true self is a satellite view of the track. When I act, I do so based not only on my experience, but the collective experience of every perspective and experience that has been conveyed to me in every way, but I am still one human body, in physical space, subject to time. I hope that when I die, those blinders will be lifted and I’ll exist as pure conscious perception of everything that ever was is and will be. Able to see through anyone’s eyes, in any time. To feel any and every feeling felt my an animal or human. To view the entirety of existence as a completed masterpiece from outside time itself.

You can probably see why I like the Buddhists.

I find that when you acknowledge the interconnection of things compassion becomes easier.

I hope that people rediscover that within themselves and others.
⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Jesus hates American "Christians"⁩ ⁨⁨5⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:
Last night’s Southpark kind of hinted at this topic a little bit. I’m curious to see where they take it, but I won’t post any spoilers here because I don’t know who has seen it.
⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨[deleted]⁩ ⁨⁨7⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:
I could probably learn a lot from the thread. If I don’t clean it while it’s still warm, I tend to resort to coarse salt, a bit of oil, and a scrubby sponge. Either way, it’s not easy for me to clean, especially after eggs.
⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Is there gospel music minus the gospel?⁩ ⁨⁨7⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:
You might find some of those influences in PJ Morton’s music. Sample: youtu.be/2F9pL06IC8k

C2C has a really cool electro-gospel song that doesn’t have overly religious lyrics, though it captures the vibes excellently: youtube.com/watch?v=tvY7Nw1i6Kw
⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨What is the difference between a platonic and a romantic relationship?⁩ ⁨⁨7⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:
Agreed, and friends are great. To expand even further: The fact that romance/friendship exists as a dichotomy rather than a spectrum or a pick-and-choose DIY relationship grab bag is testament to the way many people expect their partner to be their person, their one and only, when in reality we should be in the supportive community of friends and want the same for our partners. I want my partner to have friends because I can’t put up with their shit 24/7 … and vice versa!

There’s also a stereotype about the friend zone, but even as a straight dude I’ve dated a few friends. The key is to date people you like as your friends, not to pick your “friends” so you can get close enough to date them. It’s friendship+, not friendshipOR.
⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨What is the difference between a platonic and a romantic relationship?⁩ ⁨⁨7⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:
I don’t know if I could have a romantic relationship without some sort of sexual feelings involved or at least a potential for them.
- A relationship is platonic if I want to spend time with someone doing things but don’t want to cuddle, have sex, or kiss.
- A relationship is sexual if sex is the focus, though friendship may be present.
- A relationship is romantic when both sex and friendship are focused.
Let me just say that this is my answer and there is no right answer. It’s more important to clearly communicate your desires and ask other people about theirs.

These semi-arbitrary lines exist to help you learn to paint, but ultimately, you and your partner(s) are the artists of your relationships and if you’re painting with the right person(s) you can paint however you want, though you should act ethically and respect other’s self-determination.
⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨AI-generated search result descriptions⁩ ⁨⁨8⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:
I miss the days when you would get a cached page highlighting the exact places where the search engine found your keywords. The pool of websites felt bottomless and the only thing holding you back was the challenge of picking the exact perfect combination of search terms and operators to narrow it down.

Search engines have no nuance anymore. It feels like they just dumb down your search to the most relevant thing you can buy now and fill out the rest with vaguely related filler sites. That or they dump you on quora where they will harass you to log in to read anything and spam you mercilessly if you do.
⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Owners of laptops with very cheap aftermarket batteries, is it worth the discount?⁩ ⁨⁨8⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:
I’ve replaced the battery on my laptop twice. Didn’t recognize the brand (might have been Dentsing or something like that) but it outperformed the stock battery in it’s flattening state and maybe even when it was new! I watched it pretty closely for a while though and I’d NEVER buy a battery off temu.
⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨What are your approaches to donating?⁩ ⁨⁨8⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:
If there is a donation button and its a project, media item, service, etc that I use enough that I would buy it, I often donate. The amount depends on how badly they need the help. If I they try to steer me to recurring donations I don’t donate at all (having the option as an opt-in is okay).
⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Ads when you’re pumping gas⁩ ⁨⁨9⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:
They’re loud as hell too. Makes me want to put a shishkabob skewer through either my eardrum or the speaker. That my be an exaggeration, but I’m not exaggerating when I say that I actively the avoid gas stations in my city that have this “feature”.
⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨The world is falling apart! Send us your money!⁩ ⁨⁨9⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:
I hate how everyone follows the social marketing playbook now. There’s so little community building and genuine connection with constituents. Everything is optimized by some social media marketing guru types with a masters degree in being an asshole.