kb7qdi
@kb7qdi@midwest.social
Born and raised in Wisconsin. Currently live in the Milwaukee/Waukesha WI area.
- Comment on AITA for having my dad go to the car to talk to my mom and sister during my wedding about their behavior? 9 months ago:
NTA
- Comment on AITA for turning away my friends for being late, when I told them them they had time? 9 months ago:
Yes and no. You allowed him to go on his run, so punctuality wasn’t going to happen and you knew it. You also had history with him.
That being said, three hours is not late; it’s completely disrespectful.
- Comment on AITA? Told my roommate I’m done cleaning anything around the house other than dishes and my own mess. 9 months ago:
NTA - sounds like you might be taken advantage of, even if it is for a good cause since the kid is an innocent party in all this.
Doesn’t excuse the mother’s behavior though. Remind her that you tackle a majority of the responsibilities, and she would have to clean the place no matter where she lived.
If she believes the grass is greener on the other side, politely let her find out. Hindsight is almost always 20/20.
- Comment on AITA for wanting to go on vacation with friends and not babysit my niece who is in the same hotel? 9 months ago:
No but you may have limited options. I would explain to them exactly what you stated here - you plan on getting drunk, relax, and have fun with friends. That doesn’t mix with babysitting.
Hopefully they appreciate your situation. If they can’t, then you will have to decide which is more important in the long term.
- Comment on AITA for not wanting to get involved in my parents divorce? 9 months ago:
NTA - very unfortunate that both your parents are using you that way. IMO, the best thing for you is to try your best to remain calm but firm. Getting upset and loud will not help your relationship with them. If you have to bite you lip, or count to 10 before answering, do it. Sooner or later it will be over and things should go back to normal a little more.
- Comment on AITA for being stronger than my (Military) husband? 9 months ago:
NTA - his ego wrote a check his body couldn’t cash. It’s why the military are supposed to exercise every day, even if it’s light (I served 5 years; wife served 22).
I’ve been in your husband’s shoes; not taking it seriously enough and getting burned when it counted. I regretted it later, and in some respects I still regret it now. Hopefully he’ll use this as self-motivation. If he does, cheer him on. If he doesn’t, let him know that you enjoyed wrestling him last time and smile! - Comment on AITA Boss asked me today to leave for a work trip tomorrow, I refused 9 months ago:
If your job includes impromptu trips then you may not have a choice, other than to quit before you planned to.
Certainly explain you situation, but if you’ve accepted previous trips like this your options may be limited.
- Comment on AITA for not paying for a maid for my wife? 9 months ago:
Maybe not complete AH but very uncool and unnecessary. I can see why she’s not talking to you.
In this scenario, I see you now as a boss and your wife and the housekeeper as your servants because you get the benefit of a completely clean house just because you can afford it.
Might work out for you financially but unless you enjoy snuggling up to your money every night I suggest you find a more reasonable solution.
- Comment on AITA for refusing to provide veterinary care to a client after several difficult interactions 9 months ago:
NTA - very unfortunate, but ultimately necessary.
- Comment on AITA for saying I don't care about being there for my half siblings first time at Disney? 9 months ago:
NTA. Perhaps not the best response, but in the end you chose what trip you wanted to go on the most. Everyone will have a good time, and hopefully there will be other opportunities.
- Comment on AITAH for asking my bf to sleep in a separate room from me 9 months ago:
I think a third party would help at this point. Someone like a therapist or a priest who can help explain both sides and present the best options.
- Comment on AITA for telling my sister i don't want children? 9 months ago:
NTA. You can certainly apologize for losing it, but in the end it is your choice, not hers.
- Comment on AITA (F26) For telling my boyfriend (M34) that I need to cut back on going out together because I can’t afford it 9 months ago:
Budgets are important, and it’s great that you are trying to keep your long term goals. If your boyfriend wants to join you in that, then he will adjust accordingly. If not, it shouldn’t change what you want to do.
- Comment on AITA for not having kids for my parents? 29F 9 months ago:
No - you get to choose between zero children and as many children as you can handle.
- Comment on AITA for "forcing" my parents to watch my daughter 9 months ago:
Sounds like you need to have a discussion with your parents and further explain your side of who you believe is capable of watching your daughter.
In the end, it’s not their call; it’s yours.
- Comment on AITA for shouting at my husband for allowing standards to slip? 9 months ago:
Are there certain things that your husband asks around the house that you sometimes relax on, or even dismiss?
If you do, then you’ve answered your question.
- Comment on AITA for not telling my mom I was writing a book until right before I was ready to publish? 9 months ago:
Your friends said you should write a book; you did. But writing a book doesn’t necessarily mean publishing a book.
You have a very tough choice. Is it worth losing your relationship with your mother, even if it’s in the short term?
- Comment on AITA for telling my dad if he wants us to get married, I expect him to pay for it all? 9 months ago:
NTA for wanting the wedding when you want it instead of when your dad does, but IMO definitely the AH for using your dad’s insistance as your financial gain. You basically bribed your father.
If he wants to invite friends and family to a date where a wedding will not occur, that’s on him to explain. You only have to explain what you and your future husband plan to do.
- Comment on AITA for not wanting to discuss my child's father with my family? 9 months ago:
No matter what you do, it is entirely your choice, not hers. Don’t allow her or anyone else persuade you otherwise.
- Comment on AITA for telling my mom I won't walk her down the aisle? 9 months ago:
NTA for telling her how you feel. However, there will be times in your life where you will do things for other people even though you don’t want to. If your willing to do crazy things for best friends (at 16 I suspect you’ve probably done it at least once by now), then there should no harm in taking your mom’s arm and walk her down the aisle purely for her benefit, even if you personally think you may be asked to do it again later.
- Comment on AITA for leaving my own wedding early? 9 months ago:
You should have bit your lip and said the appropriate goodbyes, but leaving early was probably the best choice.
It was your day, not theirs. It was completely inappropriate for what happened. But it happened all the same, so using decorum to your advantage would have allowed you to escape without having to explain yourself as much as you had to.
- Comment on AITA for telling my sister I wouldn't be able to attend her wedding before she even sent an invite? 9 months ago:
No. Absolutely not!
You have a family, and they take precedence. She deserves to have the wedding she wants, and you deserve to be able to say no if you can’t make it, no matter what the reason.
- Comment on AITA for declining her dying wish and not telling my partner? 9 months ago:
Yes and no. You were NTA intentionally but it certainly turned out that way in the end.
That guilt is something you will have to deal with for a long time, but it is best kept with you and you alone. Some things are better left unsaid!
- Comment on AITA? Husband sulks if didn't get two father's days per year 9 months ago:
Not sure why he thinks he deserves two days per year. Just because you live in a different country?
Based on his response, I would work out an arrangement where there is a mutual agreement where you both get similar experiences per year. If he expects two Father’s Days, then you get to pick another Mother’s Day so you get two per year the way you want.
Anything else is selfishness on his part.
- Comment on AITA for telling my estranged father he can take care of his own wife? 9 months ago:
No, you are NTA. There will never be a scenario where you would be. You get to choose your relationship with your father’s new family, whether that is all-in or all-out.
- Comment on AITA for snapping at my family for siding with my autistic sister? 9 months ago:
Yes and no. You should apologize for the outburst. There are so many levels to autism, so it is hard to give advice on that part, but if you believe that she is doing that on purpose, then you will need to understand what you will build a wall with the rest of your family.
- Comment on AITA for being angry with family for swooping in to buy the property I was trying to buy? 9 months ago:
NTA - simply put, no. You said something to your family under a certain layer of trust and it was abused. You have every right to be angry.
That being said, it’s just property, and blood should be thicker. Try to forgive for the sake of family, but that doesn’t mean you forget.
- Comment on AITA for shutting down my wife's gender reveal plans? 9 months ago:
The gender reveal is another symptom of a bigger problem. I suspect the two of you argued about money many other times; this may have just been the last straw.
Communication and counseling might help. Keep an open mind on what your future holds as you have an innocent girl that will need her father no matter what happens.