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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/bug_muffin on 2023-09-04 21:26:22.


My best friend is very punctual, but her husband is not. I invited them over to breakfast this morning, told them to come around 10:30. Husband called me at 10:22 asking if it was OK if he goes on a run before he comes. I told him that was fine, I was just leaving the gym anyway, so he had some time.

I texted the husband around noon asking if he could bring a couple of eggs (no response). I texted my friend a few minutes later asking for a status report. She said he was going to be a while, so I hopped on my bike and rode to the grocery store.

I got back to my place at 1:07 and decided to cancel the meal, even though I prepped everything and don’t actually have other plans today. I wasn’t in the mood to hang out with them because I felt disrespected. Side note, this is not the first time he has done this. He’s even joked to me about how funny it is to make people late.

As I was texting them to cancel, I saw them pull up. I just chuckled and told them to go home, breakfast was canceled.

I got a long angry text from the husband about how I made my friend cry, how they canceled plans with her brother today to hang out with me, and that I’m the AH because I told him he had time to go for a run. He said me turning them away was disrespectful and he does not want to be associated with me anymore. I texted my friend to apologize to her, and she has not responded.

AITA?