throwingthisfr
@throwingthisfr@lemmy.cafe
- Comment on How do people easily find out that I'm an easy to pick up on? 4 days ago:
Your coworkers called it out but you did not. So the aggressors thought “you are fine with it.”
Damn, you might be right. I have looked on it in totally different way. When people call out “hey don’t bully that guy”, I psychologically feel they’re just confirming that I’m the one on the losing end here and immediately start being defensive. I feel I’m restoring my dignity somewhat there by defending that I’m okay in that situation. I haven’t realised this until you pointed this out lol sounds so obvious.
From now on, I’ll try to aggressively latch to person coming on to aid me.
- Comment on How do people easily find out that I'm an easy to pick up on? 4 days ago:
Yeah I’m trying to learn how to set boundaries.
- Comment on How do people easily find out that I'm an easy to pick up on? 4 days ago:
The good news is I’m leaving this company in 2 days.
- Comment on How do people easily find out that I'm an easy to pick up on? 4 days ago:
No, I’m not. I’m pretty chill dude.
- Comment on How do people easily find out that I'm an easy to pick up on? 4 days ago:
I have difficulty in trying those obvious things you have mentioned but I have done them. Once I asked politely to shut up and when they didn’t I just walled away. But this has created a image of me being a sensitive guy with not so fun personality, a cry baby.
I can’t really avoid them at the office and the moment I got chance to move away, I did and I cut them off everywhere.
Coming to bosses, I don’t think they care about these petty issues. Even if I do, this scenario creates two things. Those bullies might plot things against me and talk ill of me everywhere. Good people can’t help but feel pity for me. Workplace becomes hell.
I work in IT sector btw.
- Comment on How do people easily find out that I'm an easy to pick up on? 4 days ago:
I often laugh over the jokes people make on me. And I try getting back at them too. I can understand that level of playful ribbing.
But if it happens too often and too mean to start to take notice. Even some of my good coworkers took notice of it too and called it out.
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