chosensilence
@chosensilence@pawb.social
- Comment on How do you "feel" gender? 1 week ago:
yes, but so is gender. gender is largely socially enforced. these behaviors and habits will be judged based on how you are perceived.
- Comment on How do you "feel" gender? 1 week ago:
Plenty of trans people accept their AGAB for some amount of time before realizing that it isn’t correct.
my bad lol i don’t mean it that way, i meant overall if you are accepting of your AGAB you are living as a cisgender person. you can “accept” it in your mind but remain uncomfortable enough to further pursue lines of questioning, yes, but if you haven’t had any incongruence then i would feel it appropriate to say you are cis.
I’m as certain as I reasonably can be.
i get it, but i have been certain of many things only to have lived the opposite result. my point is that you might not realize how relevant your assumed gender is to your overall personal image until people are constantly commenting on it and noticing it.
- Comment on How do you "feel" gender? 1 week ago:
I simply accepted my AGAB
you are cisgender.
I realized that I don’t feel any connection to this gender
this experience lies on a spectrum. for example, genderqueer folks have had their expression scrutinized and oppressed, so gender identity is more of an issue they think about than the average person. basically, you don’t have to exist with a sense of fulfilment or pride to be comfortable as the gender you’ve been assigned. you not having any incongruence implies your comfort level being seen by society as the gender you present.
I just don’t care about gender.
i want to ask if you are certain of this, because simply not possessing any feelings positive or negative about your gender doesn’t mean you’d be fine if you woke up as the opposite or something in-between. i’m generalizing here, but genuinely think of how you’d feel if you transformed into the opposite gender while retaining who you are right now. all of your beliefs, passions, interests, social expectations, public perception, and many, many other things are impacted by gender. not in a direct way for some but a guy interested in childhood education or a woman choosing not to have kids would both face questions and assumptions because of their gender. you would also be forced to see your body and yourself differently because others would treat you as the new gender you are now presenting as. still don’t care?
- Comment on Pedo planet 3 weeks ago:
has it though? the -phile suffix isn’t what designates it as sexual. it’s being considered a paraphilia.
- Comment on Polar Bears are one of the only creatures that naturally hunt Humans... This one tries to break into the Cameraman's glass box 3 weeks ago:
just a note: they don’t hunt humans. they are opportunistic and will include humans in their food supply if necessary. polar bears typically avoid people like other bears.
- Comment on Pedo planet 3 weeks ago:
…? paraphilias are usually sexual in nature, not love based. “pedophile” is the right word for the act of being sexually attracted to children.
- Comment on Too few actually have these "habits" 3 weeks ago:
lol #2 can fuck right off. oh okay so MY time is less valuable then which is fine? i will be there when you expect me to. showing up early can make people feel like you are waiting on them and now they are stressed about keeping you waiting. this is such a dumb habit to enforce imo.
- Comment on Is this only about AI chat? Or also about the image generator? 4 weeks ago:
huh??? there is no context here. are you an LLM yourself?
- Comment on Is lemmy dying? 5 weeks ago:
i don’t think so. it appears to be growing tbh.
- Comment on Is it normal to feel intense fear when in the presense of any sort of yelling / loud arguments? 1 month ago:
it depends. you mention “intense fear” as opposed to being uncomfortable or uneasy or feeling slightly threatened. that would be the average response, i’d think. if you have a history of abuse or trauma, then your intense fear may be a disordered response.
- Comment on The existence of billionaires is a policy failure 1 month ago:
it isn’t. it is an intended best case scenario for those invested. capitalism rewards trickery and thievery. excess wealth is part of its system dependent on class hierarchies. it was millionaires before billionaires and now we’re about to have our first trillionaire. for fucks sake.
- Comment on I will never not be angry that we are made to believe these types of comments are genuine discourse. Why is it defeatism is always the top comment even when your talking about a pedophile president? 1 month ago:
this is you problem, sorry. that is the appropriate response to repeated pattern of inaction and no accountability. you would rather, what, be stupidly optimistic because it makes you feel good? too bad lol this is reality.
- Comment on Why are some many people role playing as animals? 2 months ago:
i agree heh. i’m glad i’m a furry during a good time to be one. also, with more tech we get more advanced suits and species like protogens can exist IRL. there’s a lot of suit makers too, so there’s tons of unique styles. it’s neat.
- Comment on Why are some many people role playing as animals? 2 months ago:
…? you mean us furries? why are there so many furries? lol
if so, the human fascination with animals is ancient. over time we began attributing human traits to their behaviors and started connecting to them on personal and spiritual levels. then when we started making art we depicting those anthropomorphic animals on cave walls.
furries simply inhabit a persona (fursona) to express themselves behind the security of the confidence being that character gives them. a lot of us feel like our fursona is an ideal representation of ourselves. it helps us connect to our own personhood, strangely.
it’s also fun and can be sexy if ya want.
- Comment on 2 months ago:
this is fucking AI lol
- Comment on Nearly 50% of Gen Z Say They’re Too Burnt Out to Work 2 months ago:
What’s causing an entire generation to feel this way?
lol you fucking serious?
- Comment on Searching for signs of life on exoplanets is tough. 2 months ago:
also, may i ask a question? you say “is and remains” a marker for life. i am not well read about these things, is that because DMS is only observed as a biosignature here on Earth, or are you saying it couldn’t possibly have a nonbiological origin?
- Comment on Searching for signs of life on exoplanets is tough. 2 months ago:
oh hey, wonderful. thank you!
- Comment on Zero surprise 2 months ago:
i wouldn’t identify myself as a communist, i am mentioning it on here. i am well aware of these concerns, trust me. i appreciate the reminders tho!
- Comment on Zero surprise 2 months ago:
thank you… i do appreciate it
- Comment on Zero surprise 2 months ago:
I truly don’t know if that is an option or not but if so there should be a massive class action suit against them all for causing collecting CPTSD for this nation.
- Comment on Zero surprise 2 months ago:
i am literally going in-patient on Monday and then entering a 90-day mental health residential community because i am currently unable to function. i recently lost my job and even had the FBI show up at my house. i am spiraling, i am going fucking insane with rage and fear. i’m going to lose my 13 year relationship if i don’t learn some new coping skills and stabilize myself.
…and i’m pissed. my mental illnesses have been severely exacerbated by the rise of fascism in America. how the fuck am i not supposed feel threatened? i am LGBT, i am an outspoken communist—i’m a large part of what this administration just labeled as an enemy and a terrorist. of course i am falling apart and feeling the need to “get them” before they get me.
- Comment on Searching for signs of life on exoplanets is tough. 2 months ago:
my guess: there is an exoplanet, K2-18b, that was discovered to have an abundance of detectable biosignatures in its atmosphere. at the time, there wasn’t much in the way of another explanation that didn’t involve life. however, astronomers recently found a failed star that is filled with biosignature molecules… so… ah lol. now perhaps K2-18b has another explanation after all.
- Comment on It has now been 15 years since the federal minimum wage rose to $7.25 4 months ago:
these people are dangerously delusional and personally i’m tired of treating them with kid gloves. they still defend the system because they believe they are on the receiving end of its benefits for following the structure correctly. they think there’s validity in defending our broken process because it can be repaired. it can’t be repaired. we have an oligarchy.
- Comment on The Fifth Circuit Ruled That the NLRB Is Unconstitutional 4 months ago:
i don’t like how Jacobin takes the “well this probably won’t happen” or “it’ll likely go this way” approach to fascism. it really bothers me how neutrally optimistic they are trying to be as if their professional image is being scrutinized so they can’t engage deeper than that. tbh, it’s foolish to claim such things at this point. Trump and his administration have showed that they are not following any previously laid path, so your reassurance is ultimately hollow. we can’t make predictions based on what would or wouldn’t make sense lol that is sadly irrelevant.
- Comment on [deleted] 4 months ago:
ambivalence isn’t when you write the opinions of an entire group of people off because they’re weird
- Comment on [deleted] 4 months ago:
yeah that’s normal you’re fine
- Comment on [deleted] 4 months ago:
yes, i am aware. i’m a furry.
- Comment on [deleted] 4 months ago:
i would also not associate with them, you’re good.
- Comment on [deleted] 4 months ago:
Weird that you think that a bunch of 13 year olds being ok with something means OP is lying about not being ok with it…
weird that you’re focusing on minors when i mentioned two generations
if you make it impossible for me to look past it, we’re probably not gonna get along
most furries are normal about their hobby is the overall point here, and one that i have seen spread like wildfire online the lat 5 or so years. i have seen furry posts on TikTok receive a ton of attention and all the comments are some variation of “why did people hate furries?” or “furries seem cool.” it might be cringey but being cringe is not embarrassing anymore. catch up. it’s freeing.