FriendOfDeSoto

@FriendOfDeSoto@startrek.website

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨[deleted]⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago⁩:

  Since you referenced “trash mods” on reddit in this thread: I have a feeling your post may also fall foul of forum rules here. There is a question in it but most of the post isn’t about that. So don’t be surprised if a non-trashy lemmy mod comes in to mod it away.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨[deleted]⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago⁩:

  This is not criticism; I feel very similarly about the big picture to what you wrote. Trump is not a Mao lover. He would have to know who that was first. And I think communist Chinese history is one of his many blank spots.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Is Star Trek Discovery that bad?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago⁩:

  Code of Honor, Profit & Lace, Sub Rosa, …

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Is Star Trek Discovery that bad?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago⁩:

  Don’t listen to the critics on the internet. If you’re not dying soon, watch it all. It’s Trek. It’s roughly 60% great, 30% mediocre to aged poorly, and 10% let’s never talk about it again.

  I would go in rough order of release because they do like harkening back to stuff. Actually rewatching TOS will be good for SNW. And Disco S2 is its backdoor pilot.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨How do I keep a 9 year old from constantly licking erasers and putting them in his mouth⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago⁩:

  My word choices have given you the impression of a scheming Machiavellian teacher who reenacts the Spanish Inquisition on the boy until his classmates pelt him to death with rotten eggs. That’s on me, it’s not what I meant. I think I’ve added enough clarification in this thread at this point. So I won’t go into it again.

  The opinion of one teacher, one that due to the question they asked initially and the forum they asked it in, and a few down votes are, I feel, not enough to call my argument dumb. Never mind the more personal attack that followed. Tackle the ball, not the player. If you want me to change my mind, that is.

  There is a whole field of study for this, pedagogy. I am sure the first chapter of the book isn’t “kids are ruthless. The end.” I remain unconvinced that my approach, where my suggestion was preconditioned on many things to have happened first, is the worst one until I hear something that isn’t that or teetering on the edge of name calling.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨How do I keep a 9 year old from constantly licking erasers and putting them in his mouth⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago⁩:

  It’s an enumeration of if-phrases. “If the parents don’t support the teacher” is just the first condition of many. And some things you may have to infer, like if the teacher had to talk to the parents and got cold shouldered, I think you can presume the teacher has already talked to the student too. I’m not gonna go as far as saying my post was immaculately written and presented. I would go as far as saying the options presented were at the bottom of the list. No support from the parents, maybe not even school leadership, cannot use bitter taste spray for insurance reasons, etc.

  If a teacher telling a kid to get their feet off the table, to stop shooting spit wads at the row in front of them, to stop rocking back their chair because they might tip over and fall - if all these situations are okay for a teacher to say out loud in front of the class: “Kevin, stop it!” - and I think they are - then telling the kid not to chew on communally shared erasers is no different. Claiming this will immediately lead to bullying or just the threat that it might do is to an extent quixotic to me. If teachers will not assert their authority ever for fear of what the chaos kids will do, they might as well pack it in then.

  Your office comparisons are insignificant here. Elementary school is a different sport entirely. There is a difference between coworkers sharing an office hierarchy and the power, responsibility, and maturity differential students/teacher, never mind the fact that offices shouldn’t employ 9yos.

  OP has weighed in against the suggestion anyway. I’ll defer to them because they know more about this case than you or I.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨How do I keep a 9 year old from constantly licking erasers and putting them in his mouth⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:

  This is something the parents should do - along being in the driver’s seat of correcting this behavior in their 9yo. In times of teachers crowd funding classroom supplies, I don’t think it’s fair to suggest “throw money at it” to a teacher. It’s not going to cost $5 just once and that’s it. If you have to beg for boardmarkers in general, this will be a line item that matters.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨How do I keep a 9 year old from constantly licking erasers and putting them in his mouth⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:

  I want to highlight again that this suggestion was preceded by a lengthy checklist.

  I think you and I have a different idea of what bullying is. I remember kids picking their nose in class and eating it in elementary school. I don’t think it took an intervention from the teacher to get that to stop. Just some kids going “ewww, that’s disgusting” got the message across. This is how society corrects behavior. I wasn’t suggesting a teacher goes before class, does a Nelson Ha-Ha, “look at that loser, go beat him later and take his lunch money.” Just something like “Kevin, the other kids need to use this eraser as well and they don’t like it full of spit. Please don’t chew on it. Thanks.” It signals to the kids this is not okay and I don’t think they will go full Lord of the Flies on him - keeping in mind the preconditions I had outlined above.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨What would happen to the Earth if it got booped by a giant asteroid going super slowly?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:

  Theoretically, probably not a great experience for the people some 300mi away or closer but I don’t think it would be an extinction level event. Speed is how most of the energy gets transferred. Lower speed, smaller boom.

  I think it has to stay theoretical though. You would have to turn gravity off though or make the asteroid such a weird shape that air resistance slows it down to that speed before it hits. And I think it would have to be sail-like at that point hitting at the right angle, making its impact much less threatening and making it way more likely it would’ve burned away in our atmosphere anyway. Before it hits earth there will be gravity pulling on it, most effectively from the sun and then earth. So even if cosmic forces got it to reverse beep beep beep speed before it enters earth’s gravity well, which I would call unlikely with an asterisk, then it would speed up 9.8 m/s or 22 mi/s every second it falls from the heavens. Thus making the impact more impactful than reversing speed. The asterisk being that there is a much bigger other new body in space that exerts enough gravity on the asteroid to slow it down. Which means it’s close enough to mess earth up in other ways (tidal waves, megaquakes, etc.) even if it does not also hit us, which I would assume it does though if it got this close already. So then we’re back in extinction territory whether Corsica hits us or not.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨How do I keep a 9 year old from constantly licking erasers and putting them in his mouth⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:

  If the parents don’t support you, and you can eliminate the existence of mental issues that require treatment or special attention for chewie, and you can’t use a spray solution, I would go for gentle peer pressure. Point it out in class, do a friendly dressing down how none of the other students want to use the chewed on eraser. If he won’t stop if you say so, maybe you can get other kids to do the trick. The unwanted public attention from his peers might be enough. Would your principal be up for a bad cop routine where you can be the good cop?

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨If you are in the US, and a karen threatens to call ICE on you, what's the best course of action?⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:

  I’m not going to watch the video. Site unseen I’m willing to pass judgment and consider her a truly terrible person. That doesn’t change the math though. If you have no visa to work, you may need to bow out of that job. You can’t risk denunciation on principle. Which is a fucking depressing sentence to write. But here we are in 2025.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨If you are in the US, and a karen threatens to call ICE on you, what's the best course of action?⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:

  With the blatant disregard for the rule of law this administration has already shown, it may not matter what number you fall under. A lot of it, very sadly, seems to be dependent on what you look like.

  If you’re 1 through 3, why are you picking a fight with a Karen? Get out before it escalates. And if it does, keep your head down and hope for the best. Or move cities, especially if you’re #1. 4’s and 5’s may want to have proof of citizenship accessible. Keep a picture of your birth/naturalization certificate and/or passport on your phone, preferably behind a password like in a password vault app - don’t just keep it in your camera roll, it needs encrypting.

  It’s also worthwhile keeping in mind that some Karens’ bark is worse than their bite. They may have gotten off on the threat enough to not go thru with it.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Is there a good way to check if all photos on google photos are locally saved on my own phone⁩ ⁨⁨5⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:

  Those googly-eyed SOBs! You’re right. I’m planning to migrate my photos to Ente whose upload tool fixes this, I think. But Nextcloud probably will not.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Is there a good way to check if all photos on google photos are locally saved on my own phone⁩ ⁨⁨5⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:

  If you’re looking for a more sure fire way, don’t use the app/your phone. Go to Google takeout and download all your contents from Photos onto your computer - if you have access to one. They come in zip files, which you can then unpack and store everything on your nextcloud server.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨what's your take on employers banning the use of languages other than English between coworkers at the workplace?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  I kind of get it if she’s around and cannot tell if your chat is work-related or not. You could be telling your colleagues to go cut the red wire but she knows it ought to be the blue wire. She could’ve jumped in at that point to correct you, had she understood. But the bomb went off already and everybody died. I’m exaggerating the stakes here obvs.

  I would try to keep shit in English when she’s within earshot. And if she sneaked up on you while you’re practicing your Spanish, apologize, acknowledge her wishes, and tell her you were just talking about the weather or the game or whatever. She might just be nervous about you talking about her behind her back - while she’s in the room. So put her mind at ease. Don’t piss off the higher-ups unless you’re willing to lose the job.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨What happens if a world leader gets assassinated during a foreign visit by a *former* citizen of that leader's country? (Like: international relations wise)⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  Why would they extradite that person? The murder took place in country A and the leader of country B got killed. That’s a problem for the courts in country A.

  Some countries have a legal proviso that can activate their court system for crimes that didn’t happen within their jurisdiction. Some Syrian torturers that ended up fleeing Syria too found themselves in courtrooms in the EU. So if the perpetrator was able to kill leader of B in A but then fled the country, if B somehow got ahold of them, they could prosecute their leader’s murder on their own turf. That’s assuming they wouldn’t just send a hit squad.

  All the headlines would just say things along the lines of “B-born naturalized citizen of A killed B leader.” I think it’s similar to all the al qaeda or IS terrorists who often held passports of the countries they terrorized.

  The relations between these countries would obviously be strained. But how strained would depend on more factors. Where did security break down, who fucked up, and how did everyone react to this assassination? If B was indeed Russia and the shooter was Russian-born, you can bet they will come up with a media narrative how the culprit was long sought for gulag internment for their wild ideas but managed to flee from the glorious motherland. And then duped the hapless people of A to give them citizenship, the stupid, naive fools! If only they had listened to us, who are always right, before! Then this tragedy could have been averted.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Why do people call it “woke”?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  “They” don’t like the term “woke” because like all good music it has Afro-American origins. It started off as describing somebody who was aware of racial discrimination and over the decades broadened in meaning to include a host of other social issues. And then it was thrown into the culture war meat grinder.

  I like the parallel to the “wake up, sheeple, do your own research” crowd. I hadn’t noticed it before. It’s funny how two uses of this inoccuous verb that can probably be traced all the way back to the Proto-Indoeuropean language have ended up on opposite sides of the aforementioned meat grinder.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Why is the human body so incredibly bad at responding to colds?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  It is there to give men an idea of what childbirth is like. (Tongue very much in cheek)

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨What is the origin of the whole "X destroys and humilates Y" genre of debate videos?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  So what did the dog find? What? WHAT DID THE DOG FIND? TELL. ME. I HAVE TO KNOW!

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨What is the origin of the whole "X destroys and humilates Y" genre of debate videos?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  That’s just YouTube speak. The implied drama gets them more clicks. It’s how to frame the ancient medium of public debate for millenials and genz. It’s like YouTubers pulling the dumbest, silliest possible face on the thumbnail. It’ll have more views too.

  It’s also a sign of the times since Y2K that you couldn’t just have an enlightening discussion. Somebody has to get owned. Hitchens was forthright in his rhetoric but I never heard him be disrespectful. I’ve only ever seen him tracking the ball, not the players. But that’s boring so people add their own spice to it. And they tend to cut out any counter arguments if the footage was from a public debate.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Is this still on the ace spectrum or what?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  You should add your age for context. You’re either a normal adolescent/young adult figuring shit out like all of us have to. Or you can consider yourself part of the spectrum, maybe in aceflux. You can do that at any age to be fair. I would just wait until maybe ~25 before you make your own identity ruling here. And keep in mind stuff changes over time still even after you’ve reached that age, maybe just at a slower pace.

  In the end, you do you. I would recommend honesty with your partners. They could be pretty pissed when they find out by accident that you’ve been more like holding your proverbial nose to enable intercourse.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Is there or has there ever been information illegal to possess or have?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  Having info on the heliocentric solar system could land you in a dungeon or worse back in the day.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Do you think conservative feel the same need to burn it all down as everyone else felt when trump won again?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  This is too simplistic. I know conservative voters who didn’t vote for 47, many not even for 45. Conservative is a value set and the Venn diagram of that with MAGA is far from a perfect overlap. If you replace “conservatives” with “47’s cult-like followers” I would come closer to agreeing with your take. I do take issue with “everyone else” though. I think that doesn’t hit the mark either. I think there is more purple between this red team/blue team thinking than there are both extremes of this scale added together. Stop digging deeper trenches. And don’t shoot your political opponents.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Brianna Ladapo, the wife of Florida's surgeon general, claims her husband won’t work with anyone she hasn’t vetted. She also believes “dark forces” are targeting her family with chemtrails⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Guys, I’m like her. I learned to trust my gut and stand on my own two feet. And I think they are mad and most of what they say ought to be ignored.

  The inch I would give them is that governments all over this planet have probably overreacted during the pandy. Which is easy to bitch about in hindsight but becomes often very easily comprehensible when you look at how decisions had to be made quickly, under pressure, never with all the information at hand, and being driven by erring on the side of caution. They may have been the stopped clock that was right twice a day on some of those pandemic restrictions. That doesn’t mean they are right about everything else. And we might need the magic castle to become the ground zero for a massive outbreak of easily avoidable diseases for more people to realize that. Aided by chem trails, I guess. JFC.

  The voices I hear tell me to look forward to hearing about the skeletons in the Ladapo closet. He might have an extramarital affair; she might be sniffing glue. Or they imprison their cleaner. A tax dodge at the very least. It’s going to be something even the angels couldn’t warn her about.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Not trying to disparage first responders on 911. Why aren't nurses included with fire and police departments? Did we not take care of people on the backend of the rescuing?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Lol I read that as “first responders or 911” as in nine one one. I would say the addition of a / might have clarified it. But that doesn’t diminish my failure at reading comprehension.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Not trying to disparage first responders on 911. Why aren't nurses included with fire and police departments? Did we not take care of people on the backend of the rescuing?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  I’m fairly confident that you are generalizing this a bit and that there are police and fire fighting departments on this planet that employ nurses. In general though, first responders who get injured end up in the same system than the people they save and need medical attention: hospitals. If you are in need of nurse aftercare, you are probably off on sick leave - so what would the nurse actually do? Especially in the smaller bf-nowhere operations, I don’t see how you could justify the cost. Plus, most firehouses have paramedics already. They’re not the same as a nurse but bring a lot of similar skills.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Did I used to be homophobic? Am I?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  If we are honest with ourselves, we all have biases that end in -phobia. They are on a siding scale and get more pronounced in certain situations. The assholes in society don’t gaf about their biases and don’t care if they say or do hurtful things as a result. The more enlightened people know about their lizard brain biases and try their best not to act on them.

  Maybe you are a bit homophobic. But you are aware of your biases and you can make sure you don’t act on them in a way that is hurtful to other people. Knowing is half the battle. So don’t beat yourself up over it. From what I’ve been reading in your post you are doing it right.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨What are some franchises with characters that personify countries?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Asterix

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨do you apologize, even if it's not your fault just to make the other person feel validated?⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  There is no simple answer to this. It’s like at least three factors interacting. How much empathy do you feel towards the other person? How close is your relationship on the scale of strangers bumping into each other on the street to best friends forever? How big an issue has any of this been objectively (or as close as you can get there)? So that’s three sliding scales to adjust to get an outcome. The closer a relationship is, the harder this can be because there is history and people (I’m including myself in this) can be very petty.

  Just judging by the hints you dropped you should probably reconsider your approach to your coworkers. And I don’t mean you need to be submissively apologetic all the time and share everything from your private life, even your hemorrhoid problems, with the crew. You’ll probably make your life easier just on a human level plus improve odds of promotion if you do more of that, even if it feels more line cosplay to you. I share your “grow the eff up”/no bullshit stance but that only works in a group of like minded people.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨[deleted]⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  I think it’s the wrong label, anti-intellectualusm. Sense of reality might do it more justice. I think there are two factors at play. 1) how much does higher education cost you? Does it put you in debt you’ll be lucky to have paid off before you retire? Have other people gotten degrees and still ended up unemployed? Why get majorly in debt to get no job in the end? That’s more a North American specific problem. I’m in Asia and I haven’t heard anybody shit talking college degrees in favor of the trades. 2) We need plumbers and carpenters and welders and whatnot. And due to declining birth rates in many places and the fact that the numerous birth years of the boomers are retiring and will continue to retire in the short term, we are running out of sparkies, masons, and HVACs. So if you had to career advise people today, you’d be silly not to bring up a profession with near certainty of getting a job once you’re trained up.

  Shitty work environments exist in more high brow professions as well.