kellyaster

@kellyaster@lemmy.world

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨More trustworthy than what's currently on the road⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago⁩:

  This threw me off for a hot minute. I used to know a guy who went by the nickname “Vag” (with a hard “g”), so when I read this, I thought to myself, “Vag! I wonder how Vag is doing?” But you’re talking about VAG, not Vag. Now I’m just trying to cram as much vag as I can into this paragraph. So much vag. Vag vag vag. Thank you.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨What a musical genius⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago⁩:

  And now he’s STOMPING THROUGH THE BAYOU

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Ramsays Kitchen Nightmares.⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago⁩:

  Couch costume could use stains and maybe a dirty sock or two stuck to it, but great idea.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Annapurna Video-Game Team Resigns, Leaving Partners Scrambling⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Yes, they’re a publisher. They supposedly have/had a small team working on a Blade Runner game, but they have yet to release a game they developed on their own. Publishing is their thing, so Annapurna Interactive is kinda fucked. I mean, jeez, it looks bad, I mean they all walked out.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Robert Downey Jr returns to Marvel as Doctor Doom⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  JFC, I had to check what community this was posted in. Omg, RDJ as Dr Doom!! This is really happening!!!

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• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Fastest animal⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Ship computer in Star Trek: “please specify search parameters.”

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨yay, no dunning kruger for me! hold up, oh no⁩ ⁨⁨5⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Sure! Note that everybody’s different, so what works for one person may not work for another. The following is based on what works for me.

  • Have you been prescribed meds? Take ‘em. If you were prescribed Adderall, Vyvanse, or their generic equivalents to address the “inattentive” type of ADHD (like me): they are classified as stimulants and you can only get a month’ s worth at a time (assuming you’re in the U.S.), so set a recurring alarm on your phone so you don’t forget to call in a refill or do it online. Put your local pharmacy’s phone number and address in your phone, and take note of other pharmacies in the area in case there’s a shortage (which is a thing nowadays). You are gonna have to advocate for yourself if they are out of stock, so get used to the idea that you may have to call and ask the pharmacy for the generic equivalent or other locations that do have it in stock. Side note: if you don’t have insurance, GoodRx might be worth a look.

  • If you get overwhelmed easily, do whatever is necessary to make yourself comfortable and eliminate distractions so you can focus. Music is good. Disabling phone notifications during work hours might help. Interruptions suck, especially if your task requires intense concentration, so don’t let them disrupt your shit.

  • Keeping track of tasks and deadlines will help you stay organized and feel more in control, so get in the habit of checking and updating your calendar (and/or task management app or text editor, whatever) every morning so you don’t get caught off guard by stuff that is already planned. I know, everyone says make a list, which is cliche and doesn’t always work for everyone, so find what works for you. Think of it as doing your future self a favor. You’ll be grateful for past you looking out for you.

  • Take a break once in a while. You might want to set an alarm for that. Step away from the computer and get some fresh air or something. Meditate or do breathing/grounding exercises if that works for you. You aren’t a machine, and you really gotta be kind to yourself and remember that you have human limits. Taking a break is crucial, especially if you are hyper-focused on something and can’t make progress; it’s just gonna frustrate you more if you force yourself to spin your wheels, so be kind to yourself. For real, sometimes allowing your brain to relax can help when you get back to the task. Sometimes things fall into place when you look at them with fresh eyes.

  Anyway. Sorry for the bigass bullet point blocks of text. I hope none of that came across as obvious, cliche, or old person condescending, but that is what works for me. It sucks that you have to deal with this and that you have to put in extra effort just to function in everyday life… believe me, I empathize with you. It can be a fuckin struggle. But the truth is, you can’t control everything, so address the things that you can control. Do your future self a favor…identify the things that mess you up and find ways to work around them. And be kind to yourself, you deserve it.

  I sincerely hope that helps. Feel free to reply with questions or vent if you need to, or DM me.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨yay, no dunning kruger for me! hold up, oh no⁩ ⁨⁨5⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  It’s rare, but you ain’t alone. Man, I feel your pain. This happened to me, too, in the 80s. I was undiagnosed ADHD, which was never suspected because at least time it was just “ADD” and I wasn’t hyperactive. I had a lot of difficulty focusing, which affected my ability to learn and got me labeled – yep, how’d you guess? – “lazy” unanimously by all the adults in my life. I still got excellent grades most of the time, which just reinforced the lazy theory.

  But wait, it got worse! I hit a wall academically when we started learning more advanced stuff and I wasn’t able to brute-force my way into A’s and B’s, and so I immersed myself in art (as a way to cope, I’m now realizing in hindsight), graduated in the bottom quarter of a prestigious prep school, and graduated 5 yrs later from college with an art degree. And I didn’t know what to do with my life, so I went back! For a second art degree! And I nearly flunked out again and had to reapply and finally graduated again…jfc, this is exhausting having to recount, haha…anyway, fast forward a lot and guess what? Now I’m a programmer. Web developer, specifically.

  Never went for the CS degree. I wanted to, but I honestly thought I was stupid and utterly incapable of handling the curriculum - especially the math - so I wrote off that career path entirely. Like, I never gave myself a chance. I’m finally where I feel like I should be, but it took so long to get here, ya know? I wish I knew when I was younger that I wasn’t stupid.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨What does Lemmy do better than Reddit?⁩ ⁨⁨8⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  I’m trying to. That entire instance is run by assholes. It’s the only reason why Ten Forward exists

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨What does Lemmy do better than Reddit?⁩ ⁨⁨8⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Ah ok, I didn’t know they could post here, that’s really cool. Thanks for the correction!

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨What does Lemmy do better than Reddit?⁩ ⁨⁨8⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  !tenforward@lemmy.world for all your Trek meme needs. O’Brien must suffer!

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨What does Lemmy do better than Reddit?⁩ ⁨⁨8⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  For starters, Lemmy – which uses open source ActivityPub protocols – is decentralized and comprised of thousands of independently-run servers, so it’s theoretically impossible to take down Lemmy completely. If lemmy.world goes down today and never comes back, the “Lemmy” network will still be online because of the other servers like lemmy.zip and sh.itjust.works that use Lemmy server software (which is currently at version .19 or around there).

  Worth nothing: Lemmy is part of the Fediverse, which is an umbrella term to describe all ActivityPub software types. Yes, other software packages also use ActivityPub protocols to communicate… for example, Kbin (the “main” site is kbin.social, it’s sorta like their lemmy.world) is a news aggregator like Lemmy and interacts with Lemmy almost seamlessly. There’s also Mastodon, a Twitter-like service that currently Kbin users can interact with (but not Lemmy).

  In short: it’s kinda complex at the moment, and many parts of the Fediverse (which Lemmy belongs to) don’t interact with each other directly because they provide services, but it’s important to note that it’s really hard to take it down completely because the Fediverse is independently owned and run by different people in different parts of the world. Contrast with Reddit, a service that does have many servers but is owned and run by a single company in America.