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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/sunny_side_surface on 2023-09-14 00:47:50.

I (38F) am married to my husband, Mark (40M). My husband is christian and I’m atheist. Earlier before our marriage, our relationship was tough because his family didn’t approve of me being atheist and wanted me to convert to Christianity but I refused. Eventually they came to respect my decision and though I’m not best friends with them, we maintain civility.

When me and Mark had our son, Jay (9M) his family sprung into the picture wanting to baptize him because he was a “Christian” baby. I respectfully declined and this caused a lot of tension between me and the family. I made it clear that my son was not to be indoctrinated and that he’ll find his way to Christianity if he wants to. Me and Mark agreed on this even though his family didn’t like it.

Just yesterday, we were going to sleep and I went to check on Jay and to my surprise, I find him kneeling and praying. I thought it was cute and watched him until he noticed me. What really shocked me was him instantly stopping, looking freaked out. He then started apologizing and asking that I don’t punish him. I was so confused and asked why I would do that, only to find out from him that my husband has been secretly indoctrinating him into Christianity, which happened during times I was not around or when they went to my in laws. Mark told him to keep all this between themselves because “I’ve been affected by an unholy spirit, which would make me severely punish him if I found out he was christian”.

I felt sick after hearing about all this and I told him to keep this conversation between us and that he can pray any time he wants to. I ended up sleeping in his room, disgusted with the thought of being next to Mark. Today after Jay went to school, I confronted Mark about all of this and at first he tried spinning this as if Jay was the one who wanted to be christian but eventually admitted it, justifying it with that his family pressurized him and that it’s the “correct” way to live. I ended the conversation and we both went to work. After work, I took Jay and packed some of our stuff then headed to my father’s house before Mark came back. I plan on staying there until me, Mark and his family have a long overdue conversation and to determine whether this marriage is still worth it. I really can’t believe any of this is happening. I feel stupid for not seeing this would happen eventually. However my decision feels rash and that I shouldn’t keep Jay away from his father because he has no idea what’s going on.

AITA?