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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Sweaty-Ad-2749 on 2023-09-13 09:36:20.

So I (F21) and my BF (M22) have started living together for about a year now. We’re renting an apartment which I am already paying for as well as the internet fees, which totals to around 250 USD. On the other hand, he’s only spending around 90 USD on our other bills. These bills may seem low and cheap, but this is already high cost of living in our location. In comparison, I have been spending quite a lot, but he isn’t financially well-off so I understand the comparison.

Although these past few months, I have been shouldering quite a lot of his financial responsibilities too, mostly on our food costs. Aside from that, my share of household chores are quite a lot compared to his. Everything’s been dragging me down lately since it’s becoming heavy on me. I have tried communicating this to him quite a lot of times now, but all I receive are sorries and excuses.

Two days ago, our friends and us went out and they wanted to have dinner outside because it was already late that night. I agreed to eating out with them because I was tired and hungry. Aside from that, I wanted to come home and rest immediately rather than having to prepare and cook. On the other hand, I asked my BF if he wanted to eat with us. He refused and said he will just eat at home. I even told him I was sorry because I have no extra money to pay for his food that night.

When we got home, he immediately told me to cook. I was shocked to hear that and told him he can cook if he wants to, but I can’t cook for him because I already want to rest. He got mad at me and we’ve been giving each other the cold treatment ever since.

Personally, I find this fight really immature, but this kind of thing just keeps repeating and ends up with me saying sorry and going on with his ways because I don’t want a fight anymore. Now I’ve been thinking that I don’t want that any more. I’m done being his walking wallet and his personal nanny, and I want him to realize that.

So AITA for not cooking for him that night?