Discourse, Flarum, MyBB, phpBB, Simple Machines Fourm, and NodeBB are what I can find. Any yays or nays? More suggestions? Purpose of self hosting for friends, privately.
Probably a terrible idea but have you considered a private Lemmy instance? At the end of the day Lemmy/PieFed/Reddit are just forums with conversation threads and upvotes.
Lemmy is probably way more of a resource hog than the other various php options but from a usability standpoint if you have a favorite Lemmy mobile app it would work for your private instance as well.
There appears to be a private instance mode that disables federation.
poVoq@slrpnk.net 1 month ago
cblgh.org/cerca/
Is a super lightweight one.
But Flarum is generally lightweight too.
TacoButtPlug@sh.itjust.works 1 month ago
Thanks. It’s a pretty interface too.