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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Otherwise-Pay-9090 on 2023-09-03 12:08:37.

I 48F have 2 daughters 18F (Rose) and 20F (Sara). Sara has a bad attitude towards everyone including me, my husband and Rose. Sara will raise her voice against everyone who gets in her way or she will slam with doors if she don’t get what she wants. Asking her to help with the table could cause the biggest argument in the house. Rose on the other hand helps with everything. Rose cleans the table, she cooks, she does groceries and she even helps with laundry whenever she can. Sara has always been like this and we even send her to therapy as well but nothing changed.

I as a 48F have the biggest insecurities and health problems caused mainly by Sara. I work 2 jobs a day and even though Sara is home most of the time she doesn’t help me the tiniest bit. In fact she will call me and demand me to bring food to her room and then she will slam the door in my face without a thank you. I am done with it and 1 week ago I yelled back at her. I told her that from now on 1- I won’t do her laundry 2- I won’t make her food 3- I won’t buy things she likes when I go for groceries 4- I won’t clean her room and 5- I will stop supporting her financially.

Rose said she understood why I am upset and is standing by me. Rose said that she will help me with cooking etc (Rose goes to school and I don’t want her to be overtaken by household). I told her that it has no rush and I am only cooking for 3 . I am only cooking for the people who deserve to be cooked for and help me with the house. Sara has been going around telling people that I treat her bad and I am starving her. I again told Sara I am returning the exact same behavior she has been giving me for years. I started giving her an attitude as well. Sara is telling me that I have made my point and should go back to doing my duties. Some family members are getting involved as well and they are saying that I am a bad mother. So AITA?