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• pzzzt@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  I would say it’s best to focus on yourself and the things that make you happy. Not to say that you can’t go after romance, but sometimes people end up worrying too and get desperate or too down on themselves and that’s typically a turn off which will ultimately work against your goal.

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• DistressedDad@lemmy.ca ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  Is it normal? Yes. Is it healthy? No. I wish I spent my younger years focused on building myself rather than worrying about things out of my control.

  Find yourself. Find what motivates you and makes you happy. Learn to be happy on your own. Learn to be confident without the validation from others. As you go through that journey, you’ll run into similar like-minded people and maybe some that you’re actually attracted to (lol)

  It’ll happen when you least expect it when you’re focused on other priorities. Hope this helps.

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• Rhynoplaz@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  I’d say it’s normal to worry about, especially if you’ve never been in the situation yet, it’s easy to think it will never happen.

  The best tips I can give you, as someone who spent most of high school playing D&D and wondering if I’d ever get laid, and eventually went on to be married twice, fathered three kids and got laid this morning before work.

  Don’t force it or focus on it. If you do, you’ll subconsciously try to make every interaction the first steps to having sex with that person. Which will get frustrating real quick since most people should not expect to bang everyone they meet.

  Get out there, meet people, talk to people like they are people, and not something you might be able to rub your genitals on. Find a person you connect with, and are comfortable with, and let it progress.

  Forcing a relationship just so you can say you have one, will turn out worse than not having one to begin with.

  Good luck to you!

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