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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Patient-Fly-9906 on 2023-08-25 15:02:43.

I am comfortable and financially accommodated. I don’t earn a high salary, but my job brings me enormous stability and is calm, stress-free. I turned down several offers with high salaries because of this.

Honestly, I already have a paid off house (inheritance from my late father), I don’t use a car enough to buy one and all my expenses are covered by my salary and I even manage to save the money.

My parents (stepfather - who raised me - and mother) don’t accept this. According to them, I’m wasting my talent on a horrible paying job. With my ability and enormous experience I could find jobs that would pay 3x more.

I’ve tried talking to them both together and separately that it bothers me, but it’s always been fruitless, so every time I’m with them, I try my best to avoid this subject.

An important fact: my stepfather had a serious gambling problem 5 years ago and because of that, both he and my mother had to postpone retirement and constantly have to work overtime to fix the hole that was left even after 5 years. And they don’t cut back on spending.

The situation:

Saturday, there was a barbecue in celebration of my parents’ 20y marriage.

My cousin was hired at a job similar to mine and earning more.

Because of that, the whole barbecue my parents kept saying “See,__, it’s the same job and she’s earning more” blabla.

Maybe it was the beers for the day, but at one point I just said after another comparison “Look, if you guys have to get bogged down with work to pay off your irresponsible debts, that’s fine, but I’m okand I have nothing to worry about. So just stop.”

My mother was embarassed and my stepfather said a lot of shit to me.

I had to leave afterwards because of the tension, but several relatives sent messages saying that I shouldn’t expose this kind of situation to others and that I embarrassed my parents by simply worrying about me.

My parents haven’t talked to me yet.

My brother agrees that maybe it was too much, but that my parents deserved it.

AITA?