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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Marmelade_sky on 2023-08-23 16:05:26.

I have a friend (M25) who never had much success with girls. I would say that his main problem is just refusing to expand his circle of friends and having not met anyone new in ages, he really hasn’t any issue besides that. Although he’s an atheist, he comes from a very traditional muslim family (he had to hide and eventually terminate a long-term relationship for this reason) and that doesn’t help for sure.

About a months ago, he told our friend group that he was seeing a girl and showed us her hinge account. We immediately noticed how she had just turned 19 and seemed to still have a very “teenager-y” lifestyle. We all told him that maybe he should go for someone older, given also that he’s quite a smart and mature guy. He replied that they genuinely really like each other and we should be happy for him once he has finally found someone genuinely interested in him. We eventually agreed that maybe they are less different than we thought and moved on.

Yesterday, while we were all hanging out, he spent the whole evening continuously complaining how the girl he was seeing was childish, wasn’t interested in philosophy as much as him, didn’t like any of his favourite films, etc. Eventually, I told him that he can’t really complain about a teenager behaving like a teenager, since no one forced him to put himself in such situation. We all told him she seemed too young and too different from him, he chose not to listen. I added that clearly it’s not working, so he would be better off breaking up with this person and finding someone a bit older next time. He kept quiet for the rest of the evening and barely said “bye” when he left.

My friend group is split, some people think this was a well-deserved wake up call and that I just did him a favour, others told me I should have kept my opinion for myself. AITA?