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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Late_House105 on 2023-08-11 11:30:00.

I (32 m) have been married to my wonderful wife (30 f) for just around 6 years. We have been talking about starting our family for all of those years, so you can imagine our excitement when we could finally start our family after all this time. My wife went into labour last week and my baby’s head was to big for her to push him out. Which led to her having a emergency C-section. When my baby was delivered i was overjoyed, i asked the nurse if i could see my baby. When they handed me my baby they also informed me that my wife had passed out and most likely wouldn’t be awake for sometime . When i was looking into my gorgeous baby boys eyes i saw my pop pop (my grandfather) staring right back at me, i knew exactly what to name my beautiful boy. Crendel, i understand that the name may sound bizarre but my pop pop meant a lot to me so when he passed i knew that i needed to honour his name in the right way, and this is how i have decided to do it. I signed the papers and patiently waited for my wife to wake up so i introduce her to our handsome young boy, when she woke up and i told her the name she chuckled quietly and asked if i was joking. i silently shook my head and explained how much the name meant to me. her facial expression changed in the blink of an eye and she kept asking if i was serious. I showed her the paper and told her i wasn’t joking. Tears started to pool in her eyes as she sobbed telling me to get out. I’m assuming she had called her mum into the room as i was told i needed to get out of the room. My wife’s sobs soon filled the hallway as i knew i had hurt her feelings. She has now left the hospital and is currently living with her parents, I’ve tried to contact her, her mother and even her father, they all declined my calls and texted me telling me what I did wasn’t ok. I just want to see my family again as they are all i have. I understand naming our baby with her not being conscious was probably not the smartest thing. But we have had multiple conversations about how much my pop pop means to me. So am i the asshole?

Edit: obviously we talked about names, don’t assume that just because I didn’t put it in the story doesn’t mean we didn’t talk about it. none of the names stuck between us, and I was very caught up in the moment of seeing my beautiful baby boy.