So Are You Ok With Dating "Fatties" Or Naw?

Submitted ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨years⁩ ago⁩ by ⁨squashkin@wolfballs.com⁩ to ⁨freeforum@wolfballs.com⁩

cross-posted from: https://wolfballs.com/post/17842

Real talk here, what to do with the hamplanet problem in dating

I have been ok with dating those with a little extra but I guess I have in mind that I wouldn't want to marry someone that's too thicc

it's fair as I am not obese and I would be patient if they wanted to lose weight but I think it's fair to not marry if there is too much of a weight mismatch, or at least it's a vice of gluttony that's fair to weigh in decision making

Is there any way to communicate this viewpoint or do you just have to avoid dating "fatties"? It seems taboo to demand anything from the other person which translates to just having to left swipe on thicc people which is a shame but what people are forced to do it seems

like some people are attractive and I would just like to cheer them on and improve together, but it feels like the world demands us to improve ourselves before approaching other people

thoughts on the obesity problem in dating?

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wigglehard@wolfballs.com ⁨2⁩ ⁨years⁩ ago
You need to play the numbers game or get over that shit

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iamtanmay@wolfballs.com ⁨2⁩ ⁨years⁩ ago
My gf is fat, but not too much. I like a good personality over looks perfection

Looks will fade eventually, you are still stuck with the person

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sj_zero@lotide.fbxl.net ⁨2⁩ ⁨years⁩ ago
Dating is a market, and is not a market with exactly one thing.

Back when I was single, I remember a particular point when I'm one hand I had a somewhat overweight Boomer tradcon who went to church, cared about others, happily cooked and cleaned without a big argument about it, cared about her man, had a good friends group made up of other good people, and in everything except for that one little thing was basically everything you could ask for. On the other hand, was a fantastically beautiful young woman, she had looked in the modeling but you just wasn't tall enough. It looks for it though. And her soul was rotten. As beautiful as she was, she'd only go to a church to market. She never cared about anyone herself. Cooking and cleaning was never in the cards. She treated men like garbage. And her friends group was full of people who are just as rotten to the core as she was.

Given someone with everything that you're looking for in life except for one little thing, and give it another person who only had that one little thing and nothing else, the answer becomes quite.

And we're in an age people might say "yeah, but you don't have to go with one of the two", and if you're living a big mega City that's probably the truth. But I wasn't living in a big mega city. A limited number of choices, and every one of those choices was a trade-off.

Honestly, that's fine because if I'm being honest you look in the mirror I too am a trade off. There are some fantastic things about me, and some less fantastic things about me. So both people in the situation have to make their choice: what is it that you value most?

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- sj_zero@lotide.fbxl.net ⁨2⁩ ⁨years⁩ ago
  (Man, my voice recognition died a horrible death parsing this...)
  
  On the other hand, was a fantastically beautiful young woman, she had looked into modeling but she just wasn't tall enough. Looks were it though. Her soul was rotten. As beautiful as she was, she'd only go to a church to mock it. She never cared about anyone herself. Cooking and cleaning was never in the cards. She treated men like garbage, and her friends group was full of people who are just as rotten to the core as she was.
  
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