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weker01@sh.itjust.works 3 weeks agoI was struggling to understand that for a long time too. It seems like it’s a mix of being told that just saying no is not polite and an extreme aversion to conflict. Especially when stating needs.
Some parents actively discourage their children to state their needs clearly and concisely from a very very young age.
Hackworth@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
Companies that give personality tests in the hiring process are largely looking at your “agreeableness” score. We’re constantly taught that the default answer should be “Yes.” If you’re creative, you might push it to “Yes, and…” But a plain “no” from anyone who isn’t explicitly labeled as a “leader” is a non-starter in systems obsessed with hierarchy.
There are really only three options. Try to climb an existing hierarchy. Make your own hierarchy and place yourself atop it. Or operate within and between hierarchies without unnecessarily validating their existence. That last one’s increasingly difficult by design.