When my life turned upside down and a lot of shit happened I got interested in Stoicism to the point I even read a bit of Seneca.

I never felt it as a way to be emotionless or a way to hide or suppress emotions , but rather as a way to just accept my them and “yeah, I see and acknowledge I feel like crap, no need to go crazy about it” (in my situation). It brought an understanding to me that not everything that happens is about me personally and I stop fighting what I can’t change to put my focus where I can have an influence.

Warning: this is not a definition of stoicism, but what I took away from it for myself.