Couples can do different things at the same time. It doesn’t mean the relationship is over, on the contrary it means you’re both comfortable with the other being independent. If you both like Chinese and Mexican, have Chinese this time and Mexican next. Or as you say, order from two different places. If you always have Mexican then she’s getting her way all the time which isn’t meeting halfway.

Women do seem to like showing of their husbands. So you’ll need to go places with her sometimes, providing that you also get some restful weekends at home where she is either present or off with her girlfriends somewhere. If you don’t ever want to do stuff with her then she’s right to be concerned: why did you get together if you don’t actually want to be together?

Where to draw the line: I’d suggest keeping count. If you compromise all the time and she never does, then that would suggest something of a lopsided relationship. But as others have said, you don’t want to count everything otherwise you’ll be the asshole.