Maybe it’s too hard to do

Yes, that’s exactly it. In a world where a man can wrongfully accuse Haitian migrants, people of color, of eating pets and not only get away with it but be elected president, it is too hard. I under that it’s uncomfortable but asking people to try to pretend race doesn’t matter is like asking telling a runner to keep running on a broken leg. When injuries are really bad you have to acknowledge the damage, sometimes for a long while, before it heals away.