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MentalEdge@sopuli.xyz 1 month agoYou might also ask what she wants to do.
Usually, when things get going, my go-to has been “wow… Where do you want this to go?”
Sometimes you don’t get an answer, and thats ok. Lots of people just get things going but expect you to then take charge.
Other times I find that people have hopes for what they’d like to happen.
And specifically asking about that is step one to giving someone exactly what they want.
And thank yous are always nice. Both to hear and say.
Rai@lemmy.dbzer0.com 1 month ago
I like that. I would like if someone said that to me.
I’m so fortuitous that both my partner and myself are in camp “just say what you want, it’s not weird”
All of my precious partners have been in camp “just do things, don’t say things” which I found so weird.
Now I can just say “wanna do stuff in an hour?” And my partner will be like “eh maybe, do you wanna do stuff?” and if I say “yea” they’re like “dope aite”
MentalEdge@sopuli.xyz 1 month ago
Doing whatever you want, or having someone do whatever they want, can be really hot.
But even if that’s what they want, I like to actually establish thats what they want/are ok with.
Asking is just always a good idea, because then everyone is more likely to get exactly what they were hoping for.