Comment on Anon shares his dating preferences

• accideath@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨years⁩ ago

  Hm, maybe. Where I lived, your chances were low if you’re a nerd and/or looking for something serious. Like, most people on tinder were the exact same crowd you‘d also meet in clubs. But it also wasn’t a particularly big town and most people on tinder in my age range were university students from the less nerdy faculties…

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• Rekorse@sh.itjust.works ⁨2⁩ ⁨years⁩ ago

  Well what should non-autistic people do then?

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  • python@programming.dev ⁨2⁩ ⁨years⁩ ago

    On an individual level? No idea, I have no experience with that lol

    On a systemic level? The problem seems to be that people assume dating apps are only for hookups, so people who are looking for something serious avoid them. So the idea becomes true through self-validation. Breaking that cycle somehow would make everyone involved happier I think?

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    • Rekorse@sh.itjust.works ⁨2⁩ ⁨years⁩ ago

      People don’t avoid dating apps because of a belief, they avoid them after they’ve been ghosted by the 3rd or 4th person in as many weeks.

      Its a worse experience for building relationships than just regular life in most cases.

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• Crashumbc@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨years⁩ ago

  For you yes, that’s not the norm. In average cities/towns, it’s used for hook ups (shallow ones) and cheating. Can you meet a person there? Sure but odds are very much against it.

  Note, I’m talking about Tinder specifically, dating apps are fine.

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