Comment on How do people in this day in age become nazis/neonazies sexist or even incels when there is so much knowledge against it? Do they get anything out of being that way?

istanbullu@lemmy.ml ⁨4⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

• Daxtron2@startrek.website ⁨4⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  Nah there’s plenty of unattractive people in relationships that aren’t total assholes.

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• Smoogs@lemmy.world ⁨4⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  look at the original poster boy of incel: Roger Elliot. he was physically attractive, well groomed, from decent money, clearly looked after himself but was one of the most unattractive personalities and complained he was constantly rejected.

  You can still be well groomed and the biggest incel. that’s often their complaint against women. They are relying on getting by on looks alone and then complain about getting nothing because they overlooked women are deeper than that. They don’t wanna work on themselves. Easier to blame the women or society or feminism etc.

  There are plenty of men who don’t even have half the physical attractiveness of Roger Elliot and far more well adjusted.

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• Crikeste@lemm.ee ⁨4⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  I guess maybe you could consider people’s personalities ‘unattractive’, but your phrasing comes across as abrasive at best in a NoStupidQuestions thread.

  Going off your comment at face value: there are plenty of attractive people who are lonely. It could be due to all sorts of different factors. Things right now are pretty tough; mentally, physically and economically. A lot of people are struggling. And for men, that can manifest in things women see as ‘red flags’. And that only furthers the isolationism, which begins to fester and cause hateful feelings.

  Because yeah, some of it is genuinely out of people’s hands.

  I don’t feel like THAT is hard to understand at all.

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