For most people, big breaks in habits fall apart fast, while more gradual changes stick.
For example, many make resolutions to get fit, and start a bunch of related things. But since none of it is habitual, it requires mental effort to do consistently. Soon, something else important requires that mental attention, and the plan falls apart.
The successful ones aren’t special, but they created one, little, achievable metric to hit:
- “Subscribe to 2 science-based fitness influencers and watch their content regularly”.
Because it was easy, it became habit. Then, they chose another simple thing to build on:
- “Change evening commute to pass by gym”
- “On Tuesdays, go into gym”
- “Learn proper form for one excercise”
- “Bring a protein shake”
- etc.
Each of these is so small they don’t really feel significant at all. And they’re not. The important thing to understand is we’re all lazy. The real challenge isn’t getting yourself onto a diet or into the gym, it’s designing your habits so that the diet isn’t “a diet”, it’s just what you eat. It’s designing your life so that going to the gym requires less mental effort than not going.
I could write a lot more about this but it’s already getting long. Atomic Habits is a good book on how to design your habits and habit chains, if you have the time.
GBU_28@lemm.ee 4 months ago
Rapid habit/ lifestyle changes aren’t sustainable. You don’t have the discipline to maintain them. (That’s not a dig at you, it’s just literally counter to human nature.) Better to gradually build habits that you can actually keep
chrischryse@lemmy.world 4 months ago
Ok so I like analogies which make me understand lol so is this like having to teach yourself to wake up early to go to work, or to train for a sport?
GBU_28@lemm.ee 4 months ago
Pretty much, and most importantly, DONT try to change everything at once.
Like if you struggle with waking up early…
DON’T: Starting tomorrow I’m waking up at 5am every single day!
DO: I’m going to set my alarm 15 minutes earlier.
Preflight_Tomato@lemm.ee 4 months ago
Yes! It’s not so much the work itself, but the mental effort tied to it. After a couple weeks of repetition something becomes habit, that mental effort is diminished.