These three points you make here completely validate my decision to start to mainly use this instance.

1. One thing which is probably important to note here is that I tend to view Lemmy instances as infrastructure, rather than as communities.

2. I do not want to end up in a fragmented Lemmy network, where users are required to have accounts on 5 different instances in order to be able to access all their communities.

3. Communities should always be free to set and enforce rules which foster healthy discussions. On top of that, instances should always be free to set and enforce rules for all of their users and communities.

These adress the majority of issues I have had when trying to switch to using lemmy in the beginning.