Comment on Why isn't jerking off more valorized as an easy dopamine hit that's also literally good for you?

NeptuneOrbit@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨years⁩ ago

• ShareMySims@sh.itjust.works ⁨2⁩ ⁨years⁩ ago

  Orgasms are normal, healthy and necessary

  Yes, yes, no.

  While orgasms are normal and can potentially have some physical and mental benefits, there is no physical or mental necessity to have them (plenty of asexual and otherwise celibate people of all different kinds out there to prove it).

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  • lung@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨years⁩ ago

    I don’t agree, in the experience of my friend circle, if you don’t release for a while:

    • you start having wet dreams
    • prostate harm - increased rates of prostate cancer in multiple studies - and my friend developed pelvic floor issues
    • the “mental harm” is having to walk around horny all the time, constantly thinking of sex, and affecting your interactions
    • even celibate people mostly masturbate, that’s not what it means. Including many confessions from priests

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    • ShareMySims@sh.itjust.works ⁨2⁩ ⁨years⁩ ago

      Well done, you’ve provided some anecdotal benefits, which I didn’t deny exist.

      However none of them demonstrate necessity.

      Breathing, sleeping, drinking, eating, shitting - those are necessities.

      Having orgasms is not, no matter how much you try to convince yourself and others.

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      • lung@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨years⁩ ago

        Sure you don’t “have to” bathe but you’ll have a bad time if you don’t

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    • lseif@sopuli.xyz ⁨2⁩ ⁨years⁩ ago

      the “mental harm” is having to walk around horny all the time, constantly thinking of sex, and affecting your interactions

      this is not a problem which normal people face. if you are constantly thinking about sex, you may have an addiction or an otherwise unhealthy relationship with sex

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      • lung@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨years⁩ ago

        Hey man don’t shame ppl for normal variance in sex drive. Being horny is not a disease

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• noxy@yiffit.net ⁨2⁩ ⁨years⁩ ago

  Porn addition is a myth. Stop perpetuating it.

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  • NeptuneOrbit@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨years⁩ ago

    I mean addiction colloquially. The existence and over use of porn does cause some people and their relationship some level of affects. I don’t think we can just hand wave it all away.

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    • noxy@yiffit.net ⁨2⁩ ⁨years⁩ ago

      Research seems to suggest otherwise: psychologytoday.com/…/science-stopped-believing-i…

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      • NeptuneOrbit@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨years⁩ ago

        You are preaching to the choir here. Yes I can believe porn addiction only exists in the kinds of the those in the religious community. I’m still trying to provide a larger picture to answer the question of why the government doesn’t tell you to masturbate every day.

        Porn, for some people in contexts, has had drawbacks. Those people, in some contexts, have curtailed the valorization of porn writ large. Maybe this campaign has biased me to a degree as well.

        I have never been to a Sex Addicts Anonymous meeting but I’m not about to write the whole idea off entirely.

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