Comment on Can I ask this girl out?
UziBobuzi@kbin.social 10 months ago
It's not appropriate to ask a woman out when she's working. Service staff get hit on all day and they're just trying to work.
You can slip her your number if she shows up at your place of business and leave the ball in her court though. If she doesn't contact you then there's your answer.
ThisIsMySecretAccount@lemmy.world 10 months ago
I was thinking about something similar, but I’m of the opinion that straight up talking to a person is always better than just leaving a number. But yeah, I can totally see why it would be inappropriate hence why I’m asking for advice in how to handle this situation. It’s difficult, but I know I’ll regret it if I don’t ask her out somehow at some point
UziBobuzi@kbin.social 10 months ago
I'm speaking as a woman who's been hit on at work. We're paid to be nice to the customers and too many customers take it as some sort of come-on. It's uncomfortable to be put in that position and you should be thinking of her comfort at her place of business above your own desires if you're really into her.
ThisIsMySecretAccount@lemmy.world 10 months ago
That’s what I’m trying to do here yeah thanks for the advice
Mistymtn421@lemmy.world 10 months ago
Just wanted to say I agree with everything you said. As a woman who has worked with the public for 30+ years I have never said yes to someone who asked me out while working.
Ilikepornaddict@lemmynsfw.com 10 months ago
You will regret it if you don’t take your shot. It’s probably best to do it at your work if she’s planning to come there anyway. That would eliminate the issue where she’s trapped by her job, and let you be more comfortable, as it’s your environment.
However, despite everyone’s aversion to it here, it is perfectly ok to ask a girl out at her place of work. Just read the signs, if she’s pulling away, or turning sidways to you, looking around the whole time, just walk away. But if she maintains eye contact (within reason), is smiling, leans in, or makes any attempt at physical contact, then you’re good to go. It’s possible she’ll still say no but you won’t be doing anything wrong by asking.
captainlezbian@lemmy.world 10 months ago
Nah I’m against it because being hit on at work fucking sucks. I think you’re confusing being terminally online and things women have been saying for years but you only see online.
Ilikepornaddict@lemmynsfw.com 10 months ago
If a random dude decides to start hitting on a girl out of nowhere, I’d agree. But this sounds like a scenario that has developed over a period of time, which significantly changes the narrative. I met my gf because she hit on me at work, not all people are the same.