Comment on Seems awfully dangerous
saltesc@lemmy.world 4 weeks agoTo put it simply, “To live with as few regrets on the dying day as possible.” Fear helps us survive but also holds us back. It keeps people away from heroin, but also puts them in miserable ruts. Individually it’s different for all, but learning to control fear and not let it control you opens up a world of amazing possibilities and experiences. To have a life worth dying for is an achievement most squander until it’s far too late.
TrickDacy@lemmy.world 4 weeks ago
Yeah I’m just saying it’s not always easy to strike the balance. I’m several times more open to risk than my grandparents were, but I’m willing to bet I’m much more risk averse than you are. I think we are all controlled by “fear” to a large extent because if we weren’t, we wouldn’t last long.
I’ve been thinking about quitting my job for years. But there are so many pluses to it that it’s incredibly hard to go through with it. On the other hand, I’m a slave stuck inside most of my life. I haven’t figured out how to quit my job without blowing up my path to a secure retirement. It’s hard. Life’s hard.
saltesc@lemmy.world 4 weeks ago
Well, that’s easy. Just don’t make your retirement dependent on your current situation. Go explore the world and find better ways and meet good souls. You probably randomly stumbled into your situation through a jobs website or hiring agency. Not exactly a life defining moment when you can do it again any other week but now with a backlog of experience.
There’s a lot of better opportunities out there. And if you don’t like them, you can always come back. But sometimes pulling the plug feels scary because you don’t know what’s going to happen, despite plug pullers always saying it was the best thing they did.
TrickDacy@lemmy.world 4 weeks ago
It’s not. Your heart might be in the right place, but you really don’t know other people’s lives
saltesc@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
They will die sad, regretful, and unfulfilled, having believed that lie. This should haunt them now, but instead it’s short-term “what if” scenarios looping in the mind that convinces them that their life’s “too complicated right now”. Your remark there is a classic example of what I was just saying, and you genuinely believe it to be so as well. My guess is you’re in a comfortable rut right now, have thought about leaving it, but when you do you convince yourself that it’s too risky and therefore not an option. Your fear has morphed into.anxiety. Remove from life the things that make you anxious, your house, your job, your partner, whatever, and you will be free and happy again.