yeah, that’s understandable. i’d never thought about it that way before.

personally i use enby as a way to say that i am in the middle / don’t really care.

i think the issue comes from the fact that saying non-binary means specifically non-{man,woman}. whereas i’ve always interpreted it as just non-“specific gender”.

to me it’s the etc. of gender labels, but i realise that not everyone that i think it describes would want to identify with it.

(and that means it becomes it’s own label, and now we have to figure out what to call everyone_else all over again. (maybe the whole idea of gender labels was rigged from the start))